Sick of people pressuming I want a DD. Anyone in the same boat? (sorry needed to vent)

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I am currently TTC c1 for DC#4, I am 26 with 3 DS age 5,7 & 9. I am really excited at the thought of #4. The one thing I am not fussed by is whether I have a DD or DS as long as the baby is healthy I am happy but people seem to feel the need to tell me 'how to conceive a DD'. This ranges from the nurse that removed my coil to my own mother.

Am i being over sensitive or does this annoy anyone else?

ps i am pretty new to this site so go easy on me

I could have written your post except I am already pregnant with dc4. I have told only close friends and family so far and without fail everyone has said something along the lines of "let's hope it's a girl this time". I couldn't care less! I actually think it would be quite nice to have 4 ds's!

I know how you feel, I have 3 DSs too and throughout my third pg I got the same comments over and over. I'm pregnant again now, although nobody knows yet, and I'm expecting much the same.

It's really rude IMO, it implies my three boys just aren't good enough

Drives me mad when people assume the 'best' families have both genders - what a stupid assumption. You need a standard reply along the lines of "yes, if it's another boy I'm planning to just leave him at the hospital".

HI LADIES so glad I'm not alone with this, i just don't understand why people aren't more concerned about having healthy happy children!! The lady who removed my coil spent a good 20 min's telling me how to get a girl even though i made it quite clear I didn't mind either way.

TooTired i am expecting much the same, people seem shocked that I don't have a preference!

Lola when i was pg with DS#3 and we found out he was a boy people kept saying 'are you going to try again' very insulting!!

LadyKinbote i am going to HAVE to say that to someone just to see their reactions

It is at best irritating and at worst quite upsetting because, as MynameisLola says, it implies that the children you have are in some way a disappointment and that there is a pressure on the new baby to be the 'correct' gender.

I've just had DC4, who is a girl and it is driving me mad the number of "Oh you finally got your girl" comments. I wanted 4 children and would have been overjoyed at another boy and whilst we are all besotted with the new arrival, I may have to physically hurt the next person you says it in front of the children. DS1 has already asked me why girls are better than boys and will I love the baby more because she is a girl ?!

Way to make a child feel second best, grr.

I have 3 DSs and i am thrilled, i have heard a million times " ahh but you never got your girl" or " have you ever thought about trying for a girl" i always say " nope, always wanted 3 DSs and i got my wish, i'm so lucky !"
Have considered going for a 4th, and KNOW i'll get the comments flying at me !

DoIgetastickerforthat you are dead right and I have never even thought about if someone say's it in front of my DS's. When I am pg i am going to have to make it entirely clear I won't put up with any talk like that.
Duchess Most of the reason I have left it so long for #4 was because people kept asking when I was going for a girl, going to have to suck it up and tell them all to bugger off

People are very odd - I have a DD and a DS, lots of people said how lucky I was to have one of each. We did not mind either way, we were thrilled to have another healthy child.

I know to some people they feel it is really important, i recently fell out with a girl I know (well knew from school). She has 2 DS and is busting for a girl to the point where she actually said....out loud,....'I would have a 4D scan early to find out the sex and if its a boy I'd probably abort!!!!' Never heard anything so disgusting in all my life!

If it helps the comments don't stop if you do have one of each. I already has a ds and dd when I fell pregnant with twins and all I got was "bet you're hoping for 1 of each!" And when they were born it was "I bet you're glad you didn't end up with 2 the same"!!!! I felt like saying, they're not like handbags you know, they are actually real life human beings!

I have three DDs and DC is a little scrummy gorgeus 8 week old boy. Everyfucker one and his wife presumes we wanted a boy. truth be known we just wanted a healthy baby. Very happy.

However I do think that its seems a natural presumtion for most people, that or they are just making conversation.

chaos .... the girl from school ... my god !!!!

I know Duchess talk about extreme!!

The attitude of aborting the wrong gender (usually boys) is quite common on ingender website.

If we ever manage to get pregnant again I would like a dd and I will be pissed off if people go on about being disappointed with another boy. Possibly because it will touch a nerve a bit I guess. However with ds I had a few people ask me immediately afterwards if I'd try again for a girl. Which annoyed me because it suggested that somehow ds was second best - the phrase "try again" makes it sounds like I was trying for a girl and had failed when actually I was just trying for a baby!

I have grown 3ds's and Ttc with a different partner and we both want a DS. I've never wanted a Dd always boys. It used to drive me crazy when people would say oh you might be lucky and get a girl next time.
Obviously if I got a Dd I would want and love her but just prefer boys.

Im only on my SECOND pregnancy, im having another wee boy, and people assuming ill be going for number three just to get a gurl!

I am older and bolshy now so I will jump down the throats of stupid dickheads people that say it!!