How did you feel about having DC2?

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Yet another friend has just announced she is having DC2 in the summer. I've now lost count of how many friends are making the leap to 2 DCs this year.

We are planning to TTC in the next few months but I'd be lying if I said I'm desperate to have another, it's more about getting the age gap right for us (DS is 22 months old now). When people talk about being desperate for another child, I have no idea what they're talking about! I also feel a bit guilty for DS in a strange way.

How did you feel about TTC DC2?

Desperate may not have been the right word but I certainly got 'the urge' for a second just before DD1's first birthday. Timing wise we decided to wait until after her birthday before ttc but from then on the obsession was as strong as it had been first time round.

Just hoping it doesn't hit me a third time when dd2 gets to a year old!

I should probably have said that I didn't

I should probably have said that I didn't

Sorry- that was DS posting before I'd finished!

I should probably have said that I never had a strong urge to have DS. It was always in the plan and happened pretty quickly. I was very pleased and excited when I found I was pregnant and love DS so much, although I had a rough time with the birth and suffered mild PND for a while after he was born.

Things are so great now. I can have conversations with him and he's finally sleeping better. Part of me wonders why I'd be crazy enough to do it again!

I do often wonder why I agreed to have a second, it sounds awful but I'm so content with just DD at the moment. She's 26months and we have a great time playing at home.
I'm 9 weeks pg so will have a max of four months with two at home before DD is off to nursery and having adventures on her own.
I do want two children but I'm having trouble reconciling it with reality right now.

RugBugs you've hit the nail on the head. I can't help feeling a little bit resentful towards this child that doesn't exist yet - as if they're going to come along and ruin everything that seems to have taken forever to get here.

I've been talking to my friend today about it and she felt the same as did her DIL. She said to think of it as less of a bad thing and more of a gift of a brother or sister for DS. Her GCs are best friends and enjoy each other's company so much. I think I just need to keep telling myself that.