Feelings of both joy and sadness...A plea for reassurance?!

[louise182]

Hello,

My fiance and I have been ttc since March/April 2012. I am 22 years old.

I took my last logynon contraceptive pill (after 6 years of taking it) at the end of January 2012, I had a short withdrawal bleed within a couple of days and went on to have normal regular periods in March, April and May.

I then started to get bad acne on my face and did not have periods in June, July, August, September and October, but had a very heavy painful period that started on November 27th and lasted 6 days.

During the time I was missing periods I visited my doctor (around August time) who arranged blood tests and a pelvic ultrasound scan straight away for me as he suspected PCOS due to my acne.

The blood tests were completely normal, though the scan showed 'an appearance' of PCOS. My doctor reassured me as the blood tests were clear he was not concerned and put my problems down to stress, and said my ovaries had 'paused' because of this. I agreed with this as I have just bought a house and been under pressure with moving, and work is not a nice place to be at the moment due to impossible targets and a very difficult manager which is making me feel quite stressed.

Before starting to take the pill in my early teens, and during taking it, my periods were regular as clockwork and I had no problems. It was only when I stopped taking it I was presented with these problems.

I was hoping finally having a period on November would mean the start of my cycle slipping back to normal, and I am now waiting for my next period to start, but am a couple of days late. I have done a pregnancy test which was negative. I know it is only a couple of days, and am trying not to worry or stress as I know this will not help! I dont want to go several more months with no periods and I dont want to keep pestering my doctor!

Now my sister and her fiance have announced they are pregnant andd i am so happy for them, but it just reminded me it hasnt happened for us yet and i feel a little
Has anybody else had similar problems to me? Can anybody recommend anything to help me get my cycle back to normal?!

Thank you very much :-)
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Your feelings of joy and disappointment are completely normal and understandable. When ttc , it can sometimes feel like everyone around is pregnant and conflicting emotions of happiness and jealousy are common.

You say you period is late, I am wondering why you think this, how do you know if you have ovulated this month, was it confirmed by gp blood test? Or some other way? It is possible that you just have longer cycles, if so it might be helpful for you to try tracking you cycle by looking at cm and temping, you might already be doing this if so please ignore me !

I hope that more people come and reassure you that conflicting emotion over you sisters pregnancy is completely normal. And that you get your own pregnancy soon.

Louise, I have been ttc for two years now. In that time alot of people have announced they are pregnant, some have even announced 2nd pregnancies :-0 whenever I hear someone close is pregnant I run through so many emotions from being pleased for them to such sadness I can only describe as a pain. It's hard knowing you will have to watch someone go through the one thing you want so badly :-( what your feeling is totally normal.

With regards to you periods, as the above posters says it could be that your cycles are longer. Have you tried using opk. I found these really useful at the start to track my cycle for the few months. I don't use them know but I've learnt the signs and know the length of my lutheal phase so that really helps. I also go Accupuncture it really helps for my stress levels and did regulate my cycles to every thirty days which was good.

Good luck :)

If you have PCOS then OPKs are not recommended - they measure LH and most women with PCOS have naturally high levels of LH so they often don't give accurate results.

I have PCOS and chart my temperatures so that I know when I have ovulated. You have not been TTC for very long at all, but I suggest your best course of action is to go to your GP in March (1 year after you came off the pill) and ask to be referred to a fertility specialist. They will then be able to carry out further investigations to determine the best course of action for you. Be forceful with your GP though, they actually only have minimal knowledge about fertility issues so you may have to push for a referral.

With regards to other couples getting pregnant, it is hard and you will feel upset, but you really do have to take a deep breath and just push on with your own plans. By all means have a quiet cry by yourself every now and then, but you mustn't let the sadness consume you.