TTC after a second-trimester loss? Come on in, there's tea and empathy.

[literaryone]

Starting a thread specifically for those of us who've had second-trimester losses. Our heartbreak is the same as that with earlier and later losses, but our experiences and our fears are probably different. So do come in and chat if you've been there and have mustered up the hope to try again.

Popping in to wish all of you a happy Christmas. I had a blub last night during the service when the priest talked about the little child being a symbol of hope of renewal. Hoping for happiness and healing in the new year, for all of us and for all who suffer or mourn.

xoxoxoxox

Hi literary, merry Christmas to you too. I had a few cries to myself yesterday but my DH was wonderful and decided to pamper me all day, did all the cooking and washing up and made a gorgeous dinner.

Now waiting for af to turn up any day now and we can get cracking with the TTC! Feel that false confidence which comes with having nothing to lose but I know it could/probably will take months and months.

Hope everyone's days passed peacefully and we can make a new start in 2013.

Piz

How's everyone doing? I hope you're all feeling better about this year.

Have been having a rough couple of weeks. DH and I are both feeling awful and have even had the very tearful "should we be together?" conversation, though we're also having some very mature and considered discussions about why we landed up in that place. The due-date-for-the-baby-who-should-have-been is rapidly approaching. I cry a LOT and can' seem to let go of the grief. Not a great new year, thus far. We'll probably postpone TTC indefinitely until we get our heads sorted.

Hi literary,

Sounds like tough times, sorry it's so hard. Why do these things have to happen at a time when we should be so happy.

10 days until our due date too, feel very up and down. Am ovulating right now so we're officially 'trying' but I'm trying to steel myself for disappointment in a couple of weeks.

Have you thought about counselling? I have been to a couple of sessions, the first one I wasn't sure but I felt a bit lighter and that things were clearer after the last session. Maybe it's something you could try with your husband?

Fingers crossed for you. Seems like were were the only 2nd trimester loss TTC'ers anyway so maybe there aren't many of us around!

Piz

Things are a bit better -- I think we were just having one of those periodic blowouts. But I do still feel uncertain of things.

I have been seeing a counsellor by myself since October. And very good she is too. The husband, well, I've suggested he find someone to talk to, as he is tending to bottle it all up. But I don't want to push it just yet.

10 days away from that due date and it is hard. I'm sad a lot of the time.

Bumping this up in case there's anyone else who'd like to join in.

Hi everyone, just popping on to say ds was born last fri by elcs at 38+2. he weighed 7lb 11 and has lots of dark hair!

Hope all are well x

Congratulations, Moomins! So relieved and happy to hear all went well! It's very heartening.

Damn, ht enter too soon. Hope you are recovering well and enjoying every minute with him.