Getting very impatiant now! Thinking of taking drastic action.

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, we've been trying for a baby since our nearly 8 year old daughter was 2, so on and off for about 6 years!! I had clomid to concieve Lucy, but I've now had my lifetime limmit. Apparently I do ovulate regularly now, and my DH's sperm is fine. So why, oh why am I not blooming pregnant yet???

I'm thinking of going for IVF, as we've been advised that we could have IUI or IVF. IUI seems far more hit and miss, and I can't see how it would give more of a chance than the natural way. I would also love twins, so that's not a problem.

We have saved £4500, so about enough for one attempt. It's just such a huge loss if it doesn't work and it would take a long time to save up that amount again. 

I'm thinking of having one last attempt naturally, then going for IVF. Could anyone give me any tips?? What should I eat, do etc.

Thanks in advance.

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Hi, sorry youre having such a long journey. How long did it take to conceive your dd? I am about to start iui, but only because we have insurance. I think if I had limited funds I'd go straight to ivf.

Have you had hormone tests, hsg etc on the NHS?

Have you considered egg-sharing? This would considerably reduce your costs, I think you just pay for drugs.

I'm sure you 'doing' all the right things. I've come to think all the diets or gimmicks in the world don't make a difference... Just have sex at the right time is as much as you can do, assuming you're like living quite healthily?

Hi, that's interesting about the egg sharing! I always said, I'd be wary of that, as I wouldn't want a child who was genetically mine, to be bought up by anyone who wasn't 100% to my liking. I know that sounds silly, and the fact that they want IVF would mean that they really do want a baby. So maybe I could get passed that.
We are very healthy, we don't smoke, drink or take drugs and are both a healthy BMI.
I'm going to look into egg sharing now. Thank you.

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Hi,
I'm sorry you're having a rough time of things. I'm not expert but I'd say that the best thing you can do is see someone proffessional to get as much advice as you can that is personal to you and your partner, find out what treatments you can try and what the chances of success are and then try to decide what would suit you best.
Good luck, I hope it works for you.

Hi - many of the private clinics do free open evenings (eg Care as a chain do for eg, am sure others do), so why not book onto one of those, as you will find out lots of information about ttc with ivf, what helps etc as well as give you information about the procedure, no matter where you go to have a cycle, if you do go down that route. They can also explain about egg donors if that interests you etc. Great way to get your questions answered by professionals before you start ivf or fertility treatment.

Thank you both.

I've spoken to a nurse at a clinic today and she's explained about being an egg donor. It could well be a problem that I have a daughter with special needs though. She's going to get a doctor to phone me later in the week to discus it. Fingers crossed!

My daughter has been offered genetic screening through a blood test. I did decide that I didn't want her to have it, as I didn't want to cause her any un nessessary pain, but I might have to change my mind.