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Surrogacy in India

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Bellaven · 24/11/2012 12:29

Does anyone have any experience with surrogacy in India?

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peanutMD · 24/11/2012 21:51

Fortunately I don't have any personal experience of surrogacy but IMHO I think that the type of surrogacy using women in a poor country who do it through it nothing short of desperation to support their family is a horrid form of exploitation.

I don't mean to sound as though I'm judging you as a person, I most certainly don't doubt that you are seeking many options and avenues but on the whole I think this going to become a disgusting new trend :(

Christelle2207 · 25/11/2012 11:37

also, I saw a documentary about this relatively recently - remember that these things are planned through "agencies" who actually take over 95% of the money that women pay, the women who carry your child get a pittence - that's how desparate they are.
If you are interested in surrogacy there are plenty of far more legit ways to do it here, where it is not for anyone's financial gain.

kelwinters · 30/11/2012 18:03

Actually, Surrogacy in India can be quite a wonderful experience providing benefits to both parties - the Intended Parent and to the Surrogate as well. Of course, with anything dealing with human life and medical procedures, one must be sure to do research and be comfortable that you are making the very best decision for all involved. There are highly reputable clinics with all the modern technology available, and there are some that are not so reputable. At the high standard clinics, salary for a surrogate in India is usually at least 6x the average wages in India, they are given apartments in which their children can join them, and all medical care is provided for them, which often includes diagnostic tests that they might otherwise not have access to (pap smears, etc). The salary they make for carrying a baby for someone who can't otherwise have one allows these women to provide education, housing, and a much better life for their families. Often, the Intended Parents will personally give the surrogate extra compensation when they arrive to meet their babies. Also, most of the time the surrogate has no biological connection to the child, Intended Parents either self-cycle and use their own eggs, or utilize a separate egg donor. So, instead of believing that all of these women are being exploited, let's remember that these women are actually having a chance at a little extra support for their lives. They come willingly to be a surrogate, are interviewed extensively, and must pass all screening before being accepted into the programs. I must add to Christelle, if you believe the surrogacy in the states is not for anyone's financial gain, perhaps you are unaware that surrogates in the US are paid a fortune for their services, but when compared to wages in India, still do not rival the 6x annual salary on average. Right now there is legislation on the table in India to help regulate the industry to ensure that rogue clinics do not pop up and cast an even dimmer light on a program that offers so much to so many. There are already rules and regulations that must be followed, but they are poised to be even more stringent. Again, as with anything involving fertility and children and human lives, do your research. Ask questions and go to the most reputable clinics. If anyone would like more information, feel free to contact me. My sister is currently utilizing a HIGHLY reputable clinic and doctor in India, and her twins are due in May. I will be traveling to India in January to meet the surrogate as well. As far as the current media goes, let's remember that most of our "news stories" always focus on the few negatives and most scandalous stories, and do not usually reflect anything close to the entire story.

TinyDancingHoofer · 02/12/2012 02:34

There are some terrible stories about the poor women working as surrogates. They mostly have families and children themselves, who they are restricted from seeing. And a lot of women have died later from complications/ not received adequate medical care when giving birth. Yes, they get paid a lot but some are forced into it by husbands and family. It is very morally dodgy in my eyes.
Of course I'm sure there are some women who are very happy surrogates and the majority of cases lead to healthy babies and ladies but i wouldn't do it.

Minnieheehee · 03/12/2012 17:09

I'd approach with extreme caution. Sadly even the so called reputable clinics pocket the vast majority of the fees. However the fact is for many of these women the money is a lifeline.
I'd strongly advise you to come out to India and do your research on the ground. It's an exhausting country (although wonderful in many ways) and you'd have to be here at least 3 months to sort out the babies passport. You'll need a good immigration/family lawyer in the UK and India to advise.
Good luck

Minnieheehee · 03/12/2012 17:10

I'd approach with extreme caution. Sadly even the so called reputable clinics pocket the vast majority of the fees. However the fact is for many of these women the money is a lifeline.
I'd strongly advise you to come out to India and do your research on the ground. It's an exhausting country (although wonderful in many ways) and you'd have to be here at least 3 months to sort out the babies passport. You'll need a good immigration/family lawyer in the UK and India to advise.
Good luck

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