Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

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I've started the new thread - how exciting!!

I hope this thread will bring lots of BFPs, good scan results and healthy new arrivals.

Hurrah LCR77 - brilliant news. How long to 12 week scan for you now?

Marathon and LittleSpade - it is lovely to hear positive stories about graduates from this thread

Hopes everyone else is OK... AF due tonight/tomorrow and then I'm back in! Fertility monitor at the ready (had a month off) and am ready to go!

Great news LCR. Good luck for next month Mrs HP (though officially you're not out for this month yet!!)

I've just realised Mrshp that both times I've got pregnant have been after a month off!

This one has seen sickness kick in and I'm asleep on the couch between 8.30-9pm most nights so feeling a tinsy bit positive.....booking in not till 13th Feb due to hols and work stuff, so all being well I'll be coming up to 10wks by then. My SIL had baby girl yesterday, her 2nd, really hope mine sticks, would love to give my mum and dad their 3rd grandchild.

Have a good day everyone, stay warm

Brilliant news LCR you must feel so relieved, am really happy for you. Lovely to hear from the graduates too, especially about the number of successful pgs, wishing sparkly babydust to us all!

Great news LCR. Got mine booked for 8th feb if I make it to then. I'm with you on the nausea and tiredness Dorita.

Good luck for next month Mrs HP

Thanks everyone - AF is just starting here so bring on next month!

Hi all,
Tentatively joining please though not actively started TTC yet. A month after ERPC, just waiting for AF to turn up so can start again. So far no sign

But gutting as v much want a 2013 baby and feel like time's running out. My due date wouldve been so perfect too

Also, absolutely terrified of having another mc.

But lovely to hear your stories - very inspiring to hear of pregnancies after mc...

Hi BoyMeetsWorld, good luck when you do start TTC.

Sorry about AF, MrsHP, here's hoping Feb is your month!

Great newsLCR!

As for me, 33+1 today. Still can't believe it!

Thanks backwardpossom

Welome BoyMeetsWorld. I know exactly how you feel, my due date last
year would have also been perfect for very many reasons and am also still terrified of having another one. Hope you are OK, waiting for that first AF is like being in limbo, you just want it to turn up so you can get 'back to normal'.

Hi all, can I join?

I had a MMC and found out at 12 week scan on Friday 11/01/13. i was just over 13wks pg but our much awaited baby bug had passed at week 6/7 with no symptoms at all. We were shocked and felt drained and empty. We opted to have an ERCP on the following Tuesday 15/01/13. The procedure was quick and just about pain-free the nursing staff were fantastic since this was our 1st pregnancy i was in bits and i'd never had an op before so the whole event terrified me. After the op i recovered quite quickly and had very light bleeding which was monitored together with my bp which has been a little low. I was given an Anti D injection before being discharged as i'm O neg. Once we were home i continued to bleed very lightly for the rest of the day/night but by the next day this had stopped.

We have decided that we would like to TTC again ASAP and are unsure whether to wait for AF or just go for it as soon as we get a BFN on a HPT? any advice guy's?

Best of luck to everyone TTC love and hugs K xx

Hi kerry sorry to hear about your mmc, mine was discovered at the 12 wk scan, it's such a horrible experience, I know. I'd crack on with TTC as you're meant to be more fertile after a loss, but it might make it more difficult with dating the next pg if you don't have an AF. It's really your call.

Hi to boy as well, My due date would have perfect too! Life just doesn't work like that sometimes .

lcr great news!

Hi to everyone else!

Hi kerry, welcome to the thread. I had a mmc too that was found at the dating scan - it is such a cruel way to miscarry as you think you've got to 12 weeks with no bleeding so you're "safe" and you go to the scan excited about how you'll soon be able to announce your news to the world. Lots of us on here have had mmcs and we completely understand how you're feeling. I had an erpc too - it's a straightforward procedure and very safe and you have just as good a chance of a successful pregnancy next time as someone who has never had a mc.

I was advised to wait one cycle before trying to conceive. They say this for a few reasons: one is so they can date your next pregnancy (although my cycle after AF was stupidly long so this didn't work for me - by dates I was 8 weeks when I was actually only 5 weeks!), to make sure that any tissues from the mc pass with your period (there won't be much left after an erpc though, if anything) and to let your womb lining build up a bit again. I was however told that if I did become pg straight away it wouldn't be harmful, so it's really up to you. Personally I was happy to wait one cycle as we had a holiday booked for shortly after the mc, and I enjoyed guilt-free booze without worrying whether or not I was pg again. But if you would feel better getting back to ttc straight away, then go for it. I got pg on my next cycle after AF and am almost 28 weeks now, and so far everything has been fine (although you never lose your fear of scans after a mmc).

Hope everyone else is doing OK. I've been a bit worried yesterday and this morning as bubs has been quieter than usual - I'm 28 weeks on Weds so only just at the point of needing to start counting the kicks, and I have felt her move, but not as much and her movements are quieter. If I don't get a few big ones today I might go and get the mw to listen in (if I can get out in the snow that is).

just popping on for a quick message - nned to ready back properly.

my baby isn't moving so much the last couple of days either lurcher i lay down this morning before work and counted ten kicks and he is wriggling a bit as i type! i was planning to ring mw if he didn't get moving soon. maybe it's too cold for them!

Welcome Kerry same story here, mmc and erpc, and am o negative which I didn't realise before.I'd say it's up to you, part of me wishes I'd taken advantage of the supposed fertile time, so we may have fallen pregnant again more quickly (I'm pg exactly a year+10 days later) but on the other hand I did pass a small amount of tissue 2 months after, this didn't cause any problems and doctor wasn't concerned but maybe waiting did help ensure everything was clear.

For the worry about lack of movement, have I read on here that drinking a can of coke usually wakes things up?! To help reassure?

As for me, 6+3 and feeling nauseous pretty much every waking moment. I'm glad of the symptoms, but god I feel shit sometimes! Got supply of nature valley ginger nut crunch bars constantly on the go which is helping control the waves.....glad I told my boss so it explains my lack of enthusiasm in the office!

Thanks guys, I have been timing and counted 10 movements in two hours and bubs is having a good little wriggle now so I'm not worried any more. She is definitely a quieter baby than DS was - haven't had any of the big belly rolls I used to get all the time with him. Perhaps the theory that boys are more active even in the womb than girls is true after all...

Hi all

Thanks for all your kind words of support it really does help. I've got another 5-6 weeks till 12 week scan so just taking it a day at time. We've now told some family which helps although I was nervous about telling my sister who had a MMC just before Christmas. She was great though - admitted she was jealous but that knowing I'm pregnant so quickly gives her hope.

Welcome to this thread kerry it's a very friendly bunch here. so sorry to hear about your MMC. Only you and your partner can know if it's the right time to TTC again. For me, I just wanted to start again as soon as poss. We'd waited so long to start trying (we've been together 7 years) I didn't want to hang around. Luckily it happened straight away although I did have one AF first. My sister has also decided to start straight away and is hoping she's not far behind me.

Happy endings are always good to hear for those who have suffered miscarriages. A close friend of mine had two miscarriages in the last few years including a molar pg, has polycystic ovaries and only ovulating every other month and last week had a healthy baby who was a whopping 10lb 1oz!!

To all TTCers don't give up hope and happy shagging!

MrsHP good luck for Feb - fingers crossed for you

Hi All

Hope you don't mind if I join you as recently found out I was pregnant and already feeling a bit anxious. I had 2 MMC's early last year, only finding out at the scans each time that there was no heartbeat. Second time was twins.

After several months TTC, finally got a BFP last weekend and am now between 5-6 weeks. Saw the doctor today and asked to be referred for an early scan, if anything has gone wrong would rather know sooner than later. She thought I could get an NHS scan at 7-8 weeks rather than waiting 12.

DH won't even talk about it yet, he is so convinced there's more heartbreak in store whilst I want to be more positive but have no one to talk to so thought it wold help to share with you lovely Mnetters as I had a lot of support last year on the mc board.

Thanks lrc

Welcome kerry and redbird. Red - are you the same redbird from the mmc thread about a year ago?

Hi Mrs HP

Yes, think we were on the same mc thread last year, I had an MMC start of Jan 2012 and a second in March. Had tests but they all came back as normal so we have been ttc again for the last 7 months and finally got a BFP. Just hoping that this one sticks, already finding it hard to concentrate at work when I know the next couple of weeks are crucial to get past the point the babies' heartbeats stopped last year. Hope you are ok and see you are ttc so hope Feb is your month.

Hi again all,

AF has finally arrived hurray so now I'm just waiting to get going. Scared but excited. Mainly scared.

Kerry - I looked into this too & couldn't find any studies showing good reason why you shouldn't TTC straight away. I didn't, but only really as needed some time emotionally.

Is the 'extra fertile' window after erpc literally only until AF returns then (1 month in my case)?

Hi again all,

AF has finally arrived hurray so now I'm just waiting to get going. Scared but excited. Mainly scared.

Kerry - I looked into this too & couldn't find any studies showing good reason why you shouldn't TTC straight away. I didn't, but only really as needed some time emotionally.

Is the 'extra fertile' window after erpc literally only until AF returns then (1 month in my case)?

Whoops, double post sorry! (clearly too keen )

Hi redbird I also had 2mcs last year at 8 and 12 weeks and I'm about 6 weeks pregnant now. I totally agree with trying to be positive, during my second pregnancy last year I was so negative but this time I think that although there may be more heartbreak in store why not be happy to be pregnant. That said I'm not letting myself think more than a week ahead yet. Hope you manage an early scan on the nhs, unfortunately I didn't but maybe as yours were mmc they'll do one.

Dorita I'm also at nearly exactly the same stage of pregnancy that I was at this time last year. This is also when I would have been due had I not had second mc so glad I am pregnant. Any hopes of taking it easy have been dashed this afternoon, just had to carry a screaming toddler from the park while pushing a broken pushchair!

Hello boy and kerry sorry you've found yourselves here. I'm not sure how much I believe in this "highly fertile" time post mc but I think it's supposed to last6 months. I would start ttc when you feel ready emotionally, good luck I'm sure you'll get lots of support here

Hello everyone. (Yikes here, with a name-change to reflect my less-giddy state of mind post mc & TFMR). I'm officially back joining the TTC gang (boy, kerry, mrsHP, etc) after having had my op yesterday. I'm planning on waiting til AF arrives before starting again though as I'd like to give my body a break first and need to get over the shock of what's just happened. But I thought I'd nest/lurk here for a while in the meantime if that's ok.