Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

[Jollyb]

I've started the new thread - how exciting!!

I hope this thread will bring lots of BFPs, good scan results and healthy new arrivals.

Whine? Behind!

ladyf how many weeks were you when you MC? When I had a blighted ovum at 8 weeks it took about 4 weeks before I got a BFN.

If there is any chance that you could be newly pregnant they wouldn't rush to do an ERPC. They would be able to distinguish between the new and old Pregnancies by taking serial blood tests for bhcg.

I'm ok this am just thoroughly fed up. I'm still getting traces of brown blood on wiping but no cramps.

If this is another MC I will need to make some serious decisions about whether I can do this again. It would be my 4th within 1 year.

Enough woe from me. How is everyone else?

Hi Jolly, I was 10+5 when I miscarried. I haven't done any tests yet as I didn't want to torture myself! I shall get OH to pick one up on the way home from work though and shall do one tonight.

I am hoping I am pregnant again, but I also want this test to show up negative!

Hugs for you Jolly, take it easy.

sounds positive jolly

lady when did you mc? I too had a blighted ovum but at 10 weeks and took weeks to get a negative. Do a test, it might soound weird but I was so happy to finally get my BFN and start trying again. ALSO a BFN means you will ov super soon :) obvs would be smashing if you are pg again :)

Hope everything is ok for you jolly

lady if you mention that you've ttc to dr I'm sure they'd be able to check with beta hcg as jolly said.

I'm going for a scam tomorrow and so scared about it. I'm feeling ok generally but after mmc the idea of a scan brings me out in a cold sweat. Also been a bit crampy at points - not painful more twinges (nothing I'd take painkillers for) is that still normal at 7-8 weeks does anyone know?

It was over the 11/12th November so not quite 3 weeks ago. I wish they had mentioned this at the time, we would have put off TTC for a month or two if so.

cog I think I was still a bit crampy around then, but don't forget we are ALL different! sounds good to me. Good luck at your scan, I hate and dread them with this post-mc pg too but so far they have been so nice and told me as soon as they have seen the baby and HB. Hope they look after you too.

lady that isn't very long ago, I wouldn't be suprised if you still got a faint positive. Do a test, see what you are dealing with and then take it from there? good luck, I hope you get the answer you want!

cogito cramps and aches are very common in early pregnancy - there's a lot of stretching going on. Good luck for your scan.

ladyF. I wouldn't be surprised if your pregnancy test is still positive from your MC either. It takes a fair while for bhcg to leave your system.

Now my next dilemma. I've got my Xmas night out with my girlfriends this Saturday. It is going to be so obvious that I won't be drinking. Before the bleeding started I was happy to let everyone know about the PG (they're very good friends ). Now I'm not so sure.

I think I will be honest and say 'yes I'm pregnant again but bit worried and having scan on Monday' . I haven't got the energy to do an elaborate charade of pretending to drink g&ts. (white wine is my normal tipple!). My plan C is the sod it I've probably miscarried let's go and get drunk approach- sorely tempted to do this!

I still want to go.

jolly (hugs) Now, why do you think you have mc'ed? what week are you - 5 weeks? IIRC you have only had brown blood and not much of it (so sorry if I have got this wrong!) and are not crampy. If I have got this right then it definitely sounds ok and would just go with it and def think you are still pg? I have had spotting all through this pg, was a nightmare but am still preggo and is actually naff all to do with the baby but placenta and isn't a big deal (apparently!)

No cramping, clots, serious amounts of red blood and a continuing strong BFP is, at this early stage of pg, I think, (having had a mc at 10 weeks and two CPs) a really good sign...

I hope I have it right and have reassured you a little bit?! and for your dilemma - if they are your good friends just be up front i reckon, if you are comfortable with that, they will look after you! Hopefully the spotting will calm down a bit anyway :)

Weirdly my computer just flipped out and lost my reply so will try and remember what I was saying!

JollyB whatever you do, don't do the drunk thing! You'll have the hangover from hell, will feel sooo guilty and all round terrible. If they're good friends, I'm sure they'll be supportive, and if the worst happens, you'll have extra back up to help you thru.

Besides - awesome news re the 3+ - think that's something like 20000 HCG!

Sorry about all the faff LadyF - you'd have thought they might have mentioned that at the time.

Good luck with the scan cogito...

And hi to everyone else!

wilde you're right . I need to be positive. Tiniest bit of spotting. No cramps and strong BFP.

brave you're right too. I don't do hangovers very well normally - let alone with a touch of morning sickness for good measure. Plan C deleted.

go jolly today you are pregnant :) congrats!

we know how hard it is to believe! but for now it sounds like you are a-ok and remember what pebs said about trying to be positive in early pg - it really helps outcomes. and NO !

I don't practise what I preach though wilde!!

Don't get pissed jolly that would be silly! Just be honest with them if you are happy to do that.

I had brown bleeding at 5 weeks it's implantation. Just google it and you will see!

Not much happening here today. Ordered a load of maternity clothes on topshop as i am bursting out of everything. was late for work this morning as i couldn't find anything to wear.

Good luck with your scan cog - from all I've read cramping is common throughout the first trimester. I'm feeling a lot more crampy than I have in the previous two m/c pgs - sort of like very mild almost pre-period cramps but a bit more concentrated on the left side. Not the best for peace of mind to continue to feel AF is on her way. But apparently this is normal?

Hope you enjoy your night out jolly - if they are good friends I'd certainly be upfront with them, but I know it's a very personal decision. I've been very open about my m/cs and my friends have been an amazing source of support. The next step for me is, if I'd feel comfortble telling people about the m/c, why not tell them about the pg early on and have that same support straight through? I have this time and it's been really helpful.

Glad to gear things are sounding good Jolly and you'll be going out with your friends - that's the spirit! ( well, not literally!).

I agree with HJBeans. My criteria for telling people about this pregnancy would be whether I would tell that person if I miscarried. So quite a number of people, who knew about my 2 m/c now know I 'm pregnant now. Still not gone "public" yet though.

I've also had loads of cramping in all 4 pregnancies, so don't worry about that in itself - I think it's just the embryo implanting & womb stretching.

I agree with others jolly to tell your friends so you can relax and enjoy it. In my week between 1st and 2nd scan that confirmed mmc I met friends for my birthday and told them I was having a scan the next day. They were just really nice, hugs and lovely friendly chat. It made me feel much better about dealing with whatever the next day would throw at me, I felt supported if you know what I mean.

And, it sounds like you're going to be okay so you should definately lay off the vino!!! xx

Fx jolly agree with others brown blood is said to be ok xxxx

Yay for lurchers girl

Wilde glad your spotting us nothing to troublesome

Hi to everyone else and the newbies

Afm .... Had 20 week scan today omg me ?!? I know !!!!! All good too ! Am growing a heavyweight boxer judging by size and punching activity maybe just maybe I might go public now and even take some tips from pebs and go have a sneaky peek at topshop maternity wear ......

Yay to great scan mumtum!

Thinking of you jolly, I'm sure all will be fine x

Me? I'm 26 weeks tomorrow Time is flying by...

Evening all!

I'd lost you, just spent ages working out which topic you were in.

Well its the homes straight for me now, and I just wanted to say thank you, every last one of you who's kept me sane, held my hand, made me positive and gave me a kick. Baby state is due to arrive on december 19th by elcs, I can't quite believe it! We had a fantastic scan today happy healthy 'good size' baby which is something we've never had before, so today I am very happy.

Now off for a good read through and catch up :)

Excellent news from mumtum and state! state, was wondering how you were - bet you are so excited now!

I have just been very brave and ordered baby girl three outfits from the M&S website...that makes it feel very real! Was lovely choosing girly things after only ever having bought boy things for ds though

I am so excited, I won't lie though the fear does still get me from time to time! Glad to hear your doing well lurcher a girl, how exciting, despite 7 scans, we didn't discover what this one is, which is strange for me, but is exciting too!

hi all,

state! very excited for you, I had wondered where you'd gone. Glad everything is going smoothly.

lurcher congrats on your little girl, the clothes are much better for girls (imho anyway), that's the main reason I was so happy to have a girl first time around, very superficial I know!

jolly hope you have a good time on Sat, I think a night out is just the ticket, I 'd be honest with your friends, esp if they are good friends. I also just tell people I'd want to tell about a m/c, I found friends' texts etc very comforting when I had the MmC.

I have just told my boss at work, though I knew she had guessed! She said the clue was in the constant eating . I actually feel like a weight has been lifted, strangely enough. I can start to be honest and not feel like I'm hiding the bump. Though that's impossible now, it's looking pretty ...... big

Hi girls I wonder if I can join?
I'm on the other mc thread and find it the best place to talk to people who have gone through what I have.
Bit of background. 38 years old, no children. Mc in July at 7 weeks and got my bfp on Monday. I am so scared I'm not even that happy
Think ill be 5 weeks tomorrow and I am obsessively knicker checking at the moment!!! Every twinge makes me panic. Does it ever get better?

Well, have just POAS, BFN. My body clearly do a good job of getting rid of everything. Does mean all systems are go for trying again.

Welcome belissima - sorry you're here but, yes, these threads are really helpful for speaking to people who know what you're going through. Can't tell you from my own experience if/when it gets better since I've miscarried at 6 weeks twice and am now at 5w2 again. It is really encouraging seeing the growing excitement in the success stories on here (e.g. lurcher, state and tas) and in friends who have had babies after m/c, so I have faith that it does get better. I well understand the knicker checking - guilty of that myself - but it helps me to remember the stats are generally on the side of successful pg.

lady - Guess that's the best kind of BFN. Best wishes for an enjoyable and short spell of ttc!