Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1

[Bunnygirlie]

Hi y'all, Welcome to our new meeting place :-) Let's refresh as usual -

Bunnygirlie - 32, married, TTC since June, due to OV this week according to app

Winkle The Every Day Method is the one we are using this month.
Not quite managed every day, as I was horribly ill last weekend. But it's been damn near as. Going to keep it up after I've OVd too, just to be sure.

Us too, the every day method this cycle it is. Of course, life may get in the way.

This cycle has been hard as DH had a SA exactly when I ovulated and you can't do it for 2 days beforehand! Feels like a wasted month! But then saying that I have been feeling really ugh today. Had lots of cramps down there and a bit of blood. Bad headache and quesy too. Am totally overanalysing it but would love a BFP this month!!

Thanks Zombies, he is a right little cutie, although he somehow doesn't seem quite so cute when i'm cleaning up his little 'presents' he leaves for us overnight

Well ladies, AF is due on Thurs/Fri and i'm not feeling confident I spotted all day on Friday (8DPO) then yesterday my BBT dropped below base line and i've spotted again this morning (11DPO) but BBT is back up again today This is all quite bizarre because my cycle is usually a textbook 28 days and I never get any spotting, but for these 2 cycles we've been TTC i've been all over the shop! Has anybody had anything similar?

DH has just asked what i'm doing, so I said I am telling a load of ladies online about spotting and BBT going below base line, "Because you don't give a monkeys about either of them," and he just replied with, "I haven't got a Scooby Doo what you're talking about!" Point proven I think!

Rach - that could be implantation bleeding and also your temp can go down during implantation! Fingers crossed!!

When are you going to test Rache1S?? Have to confess I cracked and tested yesterday which, being so ridiculously early, obviously resulted in BFN and only served as a waste of money and made me upset and prompted DP to say "I told you so" Not gonna test again unless AF doesn't arrive on Fri. Really don't think this is my month though as haven't had any symptoms. Bit of a bugger tho as DP working in Manchester in a few weeks time so will have to trek about 200 miles in the name of TTC!

Happylass I have held out so far and am hoping to wait until Friday (if AF hasn't shown her ugly face by then). I know it sounds stupid but if I don't test I can still dream of a BFP, whereas if I test now and it's BFN then it's all over for another month so basically i'm choosing to ignore the probable reality of a BFN so I can ridiculously daydream of babies for another few days. I also haven't really got any symptoms apart for the spotting (which also happened last month), and Winkle thank you for your positivity but I can't get excited about it being implantation because it was 2 bouts 4 days apart which seems unlikely for implanatation
Oh well, I suppose it's not over until AF arrives
Happylass Manchester is lovely at this time of year

I agree with Winkle Rach, it could be an implantation dip and spotting. Go to fertility friend and search for charts with implantation dips and spotting

Happy - DP is just the same as your man! He just said 'babe, you know when you talk about mumsnet? Well it makes me feel how you feel when I talk about arsenal....'. Fair enough! So you are all going to have to endure my chat instead of him
So tell me. Big old on OPK this morning. DTD last night and planning to tonight obv. However I went to the gym and for a jacuzzi after. Is all the chlorine touching our bits going to somehow stop it working?!

Rache - got everything crossed for you..

I wouldn't think so Janey. When you think about it the water doesn't really go, ahem, 'inside' as such does it? All that heat might not do his bits much good though.

Evening all. Is it the clear blue ovulation things you all use? I got some ov tests with my conceive plus so I have been trying them the past few days and think I had the correct lines today but hubby is sooooo stressed at the mo I'm worried we may miss our chance this month :-(

I have the Clear Blue Fertility Monitor and I use the cheap dipstick type tests from Amazon.
The dip stick ones take a bit of fine tuning, but they are super cheap.

Anyone else with sore bits!?

Yes zombies, me!!

Sorry if TMI... But...Noticed lots of ewcm (first time since I came off the pill i've noticed it, although used to notice it pre-pill all the time) last night and duly DTD. Do we thank that the combination of smiley face yesterday on CBOPK and EWCM I have ovulated now? Or more DTD with sore bits tonight?

pip - damn it! Didn't think of that. We've been proper gym buddies this week and he's been in the jacuzzi with me about four times!

Hazle - how are you getting on?

Oh and bunny - yes, clear blue OPK. No tricky lines, just a smiley face, or no smiley face. Easy. I say that but let's wait and see if it works!

janey better safe than sorry so yes, DTD!
I'm ok, no spotting or anything. I don't want to call the doc before I see 2-3 weeks on the CMD test first (should happen some time this week), so I know it is progressing. probably silly, but if I do go to the doc, I would get all excited about the pregnancy and I would be so disappointed if it was a non-sticky one again.

so I'm out this month - af arrived at 3am with horrendous cramping - so cruel. Anyone else get horrible period paid? I've always had it - got checked out and they couldn't find anything wrong - so went on the Depo to stop the monthly misery (and now regretting it because it takes so long to get out of your system). anyone else been on the Depo?

Oh, sorry Aquarius. Hope it happens next month - babies born later in the summer are healthier anyway.

Thanks Pipbin I will have a look at some charts, although still not feeling particularly hopeful.

Aquarius So sorry to hear about AF I was on Depo for years throughout my 20's and LOVED not having periods. I stopped having it about 5 years ago in order to get it out of my system because, although I had not met DH at that point, I was hopeful that Mr Right was out there somewhere amongst the millions of nobheads, I knew I wanted to have a baby at some point and I was aware of it taking ages for periods to return to normal. About 18 months after my last jab I still hadn't got my period back so I went on the pill for a couple of months to try to get some sort of cycle going and once I had come off the pill everything seemed to return to normal quite quickly.

Have you cracked and tested yet Happylass? I have to admit I was tempted this morning! I haven't got sore boobs but I think I've made them a bit sore by feeling them all the time to check if they're getting sore I am getting some funny looks at work

I'm sorry Aquarius... It's gutting, isn't it

Rache - my boobs have thoroughly enjoyed the last two weeks having been prodding-free! But as I think I've just entered the 2ww they're about to begin getting their hourly prod all over again!

Sorry to hear that Aquarius. I used to get dreadful period pains when I wasn't on the pill about 10 years ago, then when I was on the pill they were fine. Now been pain free for the last 18 months.

Oddly since my HSG my cycles seem to be shorter. Before I seemed to OV on day 20 and have a 33 day cycle. Now it seems to be day 15 or there about!

Poor old DH, he had tried last night but to no avail. Still I think that I OVd either last night or today and we DTD the night before.

Sorry to hear that Aquarius.

Well I have OVed in the last 48 hrs by the look of my temp shift - only managed to DTD twice in the fertile window, but it was fairly well timed just before OV so I think I've bought a ticket for this month's Two Week Lottery.

We also tried Conceive Plus for the first time this month - anyone else used that? I thought DP's spermies might appreciate their swim being made a little easier and apparently it's got some stuff in it that sperms appreciate (I reckon maybe it's like giving them a snack and a bottle of lucozade half-way through a channel swim?). Only downside is you can't tell, the day after, what is EWCM, what is Conceive Plus and what is DP's contribution. Sorry.

So who's lined up for testing around 28th of Oct?

Thanks everyone - Rache that's interesting to hear.... sounds like you were more clued up than me....my GP did mention the pill but said to leave it a bit longer. I'm slowly coming round to the understanding that ttc is going to be more of a long-distance run than I'd anticipated (I never was good at running) but it'll definitely be worth the wait.

I'll be testing on 28th with you quod! Argh why us it so long away....?

Well Quod, being of a scientific bent I have been testing for a fool proof way of telling EWCM form other 'contributions". I get stacks of EWCM and this time, stacks of 'contribution'.

So, I present the Pipbin patented method of telling lady's and gentleman's emissions apart!
Upon finding a questionable material on your toilet paper, simply press another piece of toilet paper on it. If the substance soaks into the paper and disappears then it is Gentleman matters, if it stays on the surface and stretches then its EWCM.

Thank you.