Need help TTC with PCOS

[NoillyPrat]

Forgive me if I've posted this in the wrong place (plus I've always been too scared to start a thread before!). This has been hard for me to get out in the open, admitting we have a problem.

Me and DH have been having unprotected sex for approximately 4 and a half years. Not particularly actively TTC but if a baby came along, we'd be thrilled. We thought if I could get pregnant naturally, it would have happened by now!

I have PCOS so obviously it's hard to conceive. Even more so, that the only periods I have (apart from my only natural one when I started at 13!) are brought on by Dianette.

Many times, I thought I was pregnant. My body fooling me, with the sore boobs, sore back, feeling sick etc. Only to do a pregnancy test, which says 'Not Pregnant'. Which obviously laughed at me for being so stupid. Always negative.

Now me and DH (tbh I've always wanted one, I've been broody for what seems like forever, I ache inside for a baby. It's really hard ) want to start really trying, properly.

I've been wanting to ask on here for ages what I should do, but tbh I'm embarrassed that I don't know the answer myself and you'll think I'm stupid.

The final straw came this morning, when I experienced the longest three minutes of my life of which there have been many. Not Pregnant. I'd convinced myself I may just have had a little miracle inside of me. I wish I'd never done the test, as then I'd still have that little glimmer of hope inside me, like I did last night. I'm really, really gutted.

Anyway, where do we go from here? I know I should go and see the doctor; I've booked an appointment for at the end of the month, but what happens then? What are our options? Will it ever happen if I don't have any natural periods?

I've heard about Clomid and Metformin, but I don't know what they do and how they work. Is there anything I can do without going to the doctors for help, anything herbal?

If anyone who has PCOS has any glimmer of hope for us, please let me know.

Sorry it's been so long! Thanks for reading.

I have pcos and pre dc my cycles were up to 65 days!
I had a scan to confirm pcos, was prescribed metformin ad went home to test - just to be sure.
That was ds! :)

Best tip I can give you is see the dr ASAP.
And have sex every other day! According to the Internet that gives you a good quality/ quantity of sperm (!) and give you an excellent chance of hitting your fertile window. Especially if you have no idea when it is!

It took me 4 (long) cycles ttc ds and 5 for dd - we were having sex less often then tho as already having ds meantime was often knackered!

HTH! :)

Thank you so much for replying :)

Should we be having sex every other day even though I don't have real periods? I don't even know if I ovulate, with having PCOS?

I really don't know much about TTC. Well, apart from sex

Congrats on your dc :)

Anyone else please?

Go to the GP and get in the system. After blood tests and possibly a scan for you and an SA for your husband, I would expect you to be prescribed Clomid, possibly with metformin.

Have you looked at the discussion boards on the Verity PCOS site? There are a lot of women on there in similar positions.

No, I'll take a look at that site.

Thank you.

Noilly - I have no idea from a medical POV but you do need to have sex to make a baby! Doing it lots just increases your chances!

Hi Noilly,

I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 17 (14 years ago) as I only had 1 period by that point. Ultrasound showed ovaries riddled with cysts and I was prescribed the pill to help try and control symptoms. In 2008 I got married and came straight off the pill as we wanted children. To start with we just waited to see what would happen but periods were 4 - 7months apart. We kept having sex regularly and I tried to monitor my cycle to see if I was ovulating. If i even remotely thought I was then we had sex just in case. Beginning of 2011 we decided we needed help and were going to see a specialist - but in mid Jan 2011 i then conceived my DS. He is now 10 months old and my periods since finishing breastfeeding are 28 - 36 days apart.

There is hope don't worry. See your doctor for medical advice and check out fertility friend, this site has advice for trying to spot if/when you ovulate. I started taking folic acid a year before DS was conceived but did not take any other meds.

Good luck!

Thank you. Definitely going to the gp. Will also check out fertility friend.