kitty you've clearly missed a calling in life and should immediately ditch your job and move to Hollywood! Although, I can't read the word "montage" without thinking of Team America ("even Rocky had a montage....") :o
winkle that story is unbelievable, that poor woman must be reeling in shock! Very efficient though - 3 for the price of 1.....!
res ouch! There must be better ways to take your mind of things! 
chimp thank you for the kind words. His parting shot was that karma would get me, so I have been carrying it round like a bit of curse :( I know you're all right, I do need to let it go as it's in the past now, and as you say 5 years of guilt and remorse is punishment enough. I will work on it I promise!
((Not to make light of your very good (and appreciated) advice, but I did have to smile a teeny bit to myself at the thought of explaining the cognitive psychology viewpoint to xDH....."no, no, what I did to you wasn't actually bad - you just thought it was bad" :)
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