trying to forget you're trying.................

[charllie]

When i was trying to fall pregnant with DD, every month i would hate every period, would wait for it to arrive. It took me 2 years to finally fall pregnant. When i finally did fall pregnant, i had started to think that maybe i wasn't going to have a baby, that maybe i couldnt fall pregnant.
Me and my OH are trying for a baby at the minute, this is only the first month, but already i can feel myself wanting to think about when my period is due, if i'm feeling any different, am i pregnant etc. I know worrying and stressing messes with my period anyway, so if i'm late, its probably because of stressing about the fact i want to be pregnant. Any tips to stop this?? I really struggled last time, to just relax and not think of it every month.

I'm on the 22nd cycle of trying and only now am managing to relax about it (a bit). For me it took a ttc crisis to reach this point - I worked up through the levels of intervention (superovulation, IUI) before reaching IVF which i really wasn't sure about. I had a dreadful experience with the drugs and made the difficult decision to stop the IVF cycle halfway through after a very, very stressful few weeks of feeling absolutely awful. Now I WANT a break and am finding it a bit easier to obsess less. Being busy with work and having less time to brood about things helps too.

Good luck.

If you find the secret, let me know!

It is totally understandable that we get obsessed about TTC, personally I'm 2 years into the journey with no success: we're so used to having instant gratification in today's society that we can drive ourselves insane with worry.

Stay away from ovulation sticks and the like, I found they made me obsess even more.

As far as symptom spotting goes, it is so easy to convince ourselves that every little twinge could mean something and I guess the only advice is keep yourself busy and distracted.