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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Very boring question about ttc...

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wifey6 · 29/07/2012 21:28

Have posted about WTF cycles I have had since I had a MMC in April. First AF..bang on time, second was late by 5 days & third 2 days. My issue now is after this AF finishes..hopefully only 3 more days to go..I want to carry on ttc. But as my body is clearly buggering about...how can I estimate OV & best time to dtd? I'm not keen on OV sticks yet...so any ideas please? I thought I knew my body well enough til the MMC & now it's all over the place. :(

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veeeee · 29/07/2012 21:28

I found temperature to be very reliable

wrighty2010 · 29/07/2012 21:45

Hi, just read your post and remembered a post I had read on another site about how to tell when you are pregnant, it was from a natural fertility expert and all about recognising your bodies signals. I will attach the link to the post at the end but may be worth checking it out if you get chance?! hope this helps, good luck!! forum.prideangel.com/default.aspx?g=posts&t=537

wifey6 · 29/07/2012 21:58

wrighty....that would be excellent-thank you.
veee...that's a good idea..thank you.
just feel a big failure to be honest Sad & really want to get things back on track, not just for ttc but also for my own sanity.

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KickTheGuru · 29/07/2012 22:14

wifey

Best thing is honestly to DTD every other day. That site places a lot of emphasis on CM - but I can say that this month, that site says my CD8 should be exactly the opposite of what I've had.

I would just try to fit in rumpy pumpy at least every second or third day for the duration of your cycle.

Also, take the longest cycle you've had from CD1 to the day before the next AF. Work out total number of days - then pick the longest cycle. Work out based on the longest cycle what date you should potentially come on for this cycle. Then subtract 14 days from that day. That would give you a ROUGH estimate, based on longest possible cycle length, what the latest date you should ovulate.

Then, add three days (to make sure the shortest possible luteal phase is covered on the longest cycle). Then I would do the same with the shortest cycle you've had. That will give you a nice time to work towards.

For example:

May - CD1 was 1 June, AF arrival was 28 June - 28 day cycle
June - CD1 was 29 June, AF arrival was 2 July - 34 day cycle

I would then work out according to the June cycle of 36 days when you would be expected in July/August
Work out the same according to the normal 28 day cycle.

I would do this so that you can:

  1. Make sure you get the ovulation based on your longest possible cycle. Since you aren't completely sure of when you ovulated
  2. Then you're not relying on the OPK's - which I find unreliable
  3. Temperature is only good in hindsight - you actually have already ovulated when you pick up the spike so it's good to work out a pattern and then figure out when you could ovulate

It means you have to DTD for a little bit longer but you really do hold the longer period of time just in case you do ovulate a bit later than you think or a bit later that you should technically ovulate

Good luck :)

KickTheGuru · 29/07/2012 22:23

I think the thing here is to remember that there are no short cuts. There are no clear cut signs and ways to read your body.

The easiest (and most reliable) thing is to DTD as much as possible

didireallysaythat · 29/07/2012 22:24

I used the ovulation sticks for a couple of months - my cycle was completely not textbook and 5 days later than most, despite it being a textbook 28 days. Explained why nothing happened for the first months, and why everything happened when I got it right. The challenge is to stop it being mechanical and mundane !

KickTheGuru · 29/07/2012 22:28

My cycle is bang on 28 / 29 days. I can mark down on a calender and on that day, I would start off wearing a sanitary towel. I am that certain about my cycles

I have only picked up 2 x smiley faces in a year.

There are so many contingencies to get the smileys - including that the hormonal surge can last for as little as 3 hours to 48 hours and the egg can drop from 12 hours - 7 days later.

wifey6 · 29/07/2012 22:38

kick...thank you so much..that info is very helpful.
I had no trouble conceiving my DS or my previous pregnancy as my body was like clock-work & I got clear signal of OV, AF due etc. feel so stupid for now having to ask questions about something I have had come naturally for years til now. Blush Sad

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wifey6 · 29/07/2012 22:39

did...I agree..the last thing I want is for ttc to take over & dtd isn't fun anymore as its just serving a purpose.

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KickTheGuru · 29/07/2012 22:58

Fortunately, my DH loves a bit of rumpy pumpy and we'd both get a look in every day if we weren't tired or late.

My DH gets very turned on when we talk about babies. We can't walk down the road and talk about it. Grin

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