Can I ask for a little lift?

[Debeez]

Two MC in the last 10 months. + FR test on Thurs. AF this morning.

This is starting to feel a bit groundhog day. Told DP this morning and we just looked at each other and I could see he was thinking the same as me. "Well what did we expect to happen?"

I'm going to get my arse off the couch and get some housework done and cheer our athletes. But I think we might need a break. Anyone else decided to stop TTC for a while? Just for a break? I'm tempted to talk to DP about using non chemical contraception for a month or two. I think we need to lift ourselves out of this cycle.

Sounds like a pretty tough time Debeez. I don't have any uplifitng thoughts to offer but didn't want to leave you unanswered as am in a similar boat so can sympathise. I am begining to think that ttc and date watching and ss is getting a bit old myself (one chemical and one mc 8 months in) and would love to put all that away and just have sex when we feel like it but I can't. Have you been to your GP? Since that's your third you would be eligible for extra help now where we live.

Hello onemore, haven't been to the GP yet. We were going to wait till we hit the 12 month mark (nearly there now) as we're young and have a child already.

AF has been extremely light today. TMI but have barely marked a pad. I know this should give some hope but I haven't got it in me.

Do you think you would be able to TTC and try to forget about the dates and everything? I doubt I could hence thinking non chemical contraception might be my answer. It means waiting longer but at least I'd have a month off waiting and wondering.

I'm sorry for your losses and I do hope things turn round for you soon.

Hi, without going into detail we can't be so casual about it unfortunately, but Oh has reminded me that it's earlish days since it too ages after the mc to get back to ttc so really we've only been ttc 4 months - that's shifted my prespective a bit.

It sounds like somewhere in you there is a little bit of hope, if a bit dormant, in that you're not at the 12 month mark yet (and it can take 2 years) and you have been successful at this once before and got you LO. Maybe treat yourself this week to some thing you would benefit from, if it's seeing friends or having early nights?

Sorry onemore I wasn't meaning to push for detail or pry into your situation. Your OH sounds like someone with a good head on their shoulders. It's good to have someone to give perspective. (rather like you are doing for me now)

I mentioned the time scale and my LO as I know I'm lucky to have what I've got and compared to some people's journeys to have children I'm just being a big old whinge.

Worst comes to worst this is Day1 of a new cycle.

Oh! Not at all, it's just not interesting (we're just not that sexy)!

And you're not whinging - you've been through the wringer. And the monthly routine of shiny new cycle, opk watch, 2ww, and it's various outcomes is all pretty taxing stuff. You've been brave, and you clearly have a lot of resilience and just wish you didn't have to be so resilient. That's totally understandable.

Here's to your shiny new cycle anyway. In a week or two you will feel at least somewhat different (because nothing stays the same) and hopefully in a stronger place - but you don't have to be in that place today, it's ok to take time out to lick the wounds (talking to self a bit here too!!!).

Hi, sorry to hear your problems, you have had a really tough time!! Not sure if it is relevant but my sister in law had 2 miscarriages quite close together an was foun to have a conition (which I cant rememer) but was helpe by taking a small amount of paracetamol each ay whilst trying to conceive an once pregnant, ma well be worth looking into? Anyway keep smiling, hugs xx

I don't want to try and give you too much hope, but have you done another test? If you're bleeding is very light it could be implantation bleed rather than AF. I had very similar (after 5 chemical pgs so thought the worst again) and she's now 4!

As you said, at the worst, today is CD1, but it might not be