Lap and Dye cycle day timing & how much does it actually affect your mobility

[caramelgirl]

Hi,
after 18 months ttc 2, I've been referred for a lap and dye.
My question is on timing. I understand that it should be when you are definitely not pregnant.
I have a choice of day 21 or day 28 (or impatiently waiting another month for my next free day 7- holidays will get in the way).
Day 28 sounds sensible (will do a pg test beforehand obvs), but it is my DD's 3rd birthday party the next day.
So...will have 30 overexcited children running around her playgroup (not our house thankfully). Tho' will have my mum and dad on hand as they are coming down to help and can plan/make/order ahead in terms of catering.
Does that sound doable or should I wait a month?
Thanks for your advice. I've had an HSG which smarted somewhat but was bearable, but understand that Laparoscopy is a bit more debilitating.
DD's birthday is a week later so I should be sunning myself and able to take her swimming etc. by then btw.

Why has the lap been suggested to you?. I ask this as this type of keyhole surgery is often performed if endometriosis is suspected.

I was advised to take two days off work post this surgery and was glad of it. The main thing I found with this was the pain in the shoulders afterwards; the CO2 gas used in surgery to give the surgeon a better view of the organs travels upwards. I was a day case but I did feel somewhat off for the next couple of days post op and I needed lots of rest and recuperation. You won't want to move around much.

BTW you should also be given an appt a week or so post op to discuss the findings of the lap. I can give you some questions to put to them if you so wish.

Thank you for replying!
I'm not entitled to any fertility help/investigations apparently as already have DD (I'm in East London). After alot of stonewalling a kind GP at my practice suggested a lap and dye for "recurrent pelvic pain" as they'd look at me for that but not infertility. but she said that they would flush out my tubes a bit too.
So I assume it will be investigative rather than treatment, unless they do find some, frankly, asymptomatic endo or something.
Hmm, does sound like party might be a big ask from what you say.
Have to cross fingers that cyclogest progesterone does the trick and I don't need the op.
Thanks re offer of advice, may PM you before appointment.

I think the party will be too much, tbh. It's minor surgery, but it is still surgery. You will have the after effects of a GA, you will have stitches, you will probably have some pain. You will probably be uncomfortably bloated and just want to sleep the next day. It's completely different to the HSG. If you have it on day 21 you should be fine for the party a week or so later, but the day before is impractical in my view.

Right, that's pretty conclusive. I'll put it off for the month then. I did also wonder about possible overnight hospital stay if complications and how that wouldn't be very party tastic either.
Never having had GA or, in fact, any surgery before, I'm a bit in the dark (and DH is grossed out which will obvs be v helpful on the already challenged seduction front too) so your advice is helpful.
Thanks.

I'm sure that's the right decision.

I had one years ago. I was out in a few hours and had no complications, but remember feeling fragile afterwards. It took me a day or so before I felt brave enough to straighten up because of the stiches! And I remember sleeping a lot in the days afterwards (GA turns me into a dozy dormouse).

There shouldn't be much to gross out your husband. Just hide the granny pad they will probably stick between your legs at the end of the op!

Thank you! Really grateful for input. Actually raised it this afternoon with a friend who took 10 years of active trying for her naturally conceived DS (and then had a super easy pregnancy and birth). She said she'd had one and totally agreed with everything you'd all said and told me I was being an idiot.
Will recruit my Ma to come down to do the heavy lifting whilst I lie in bed and mn work on my website and marketing stuff.
Only challenge is that they got a new dog today. And judging by the vom making "ickle pickle" type chat on the 'phone, I am not the only one who's been feeling broody. Hope parents will agree to uproot him down to dirty London for the week.
eurochick: think husband just a bit dismayed by the faulty wife being cut open thing. Robustly healthy us generally etc.. But then, I think we're lucky. His Ma had secondary infertility after him and his sister and loads of horrible mcs and only had counselling from the vicar. At least there's stuff I can try.
Just got to remember not too leap off bed half way through v v early (pre DD waking) shag to grab the pre seed. Puts a dampener on things apparently!-who said long term TTC wasn't super sexy, hmm?

Also, eurochick, you advised me re fertility clinics earlier this year, which also helped alot. Occasionally come across your posts and do hope that all is feeling a bit more positive after a rotten run of luck. Surely karma should get round to balancing things out soon, no? I hope so.