Hate going to work after 2 miscarriages

[BlackDahlia11]

Regular but name changed as it's about work. Don't know if this is the right place to post. A few months back I had a missed miscarriage and took 2 weeks off work for it to happen and deal with it. Back to work, feeling fragile. Then pregnant again but chemical pregnancy. Very upset. Feel my attitude to work has changed. I have no drive for it anymore, get easily stressed and noticing more and more how horribly bitchy my colleagues are (usually about other people although I'm aware it's about me at times). Came to a head when someone made a comment when I sat at wrong lunch table. I walked out and went to GP next day. Signed off for 2 weeks and doing online CBT.

Could my loathing for work be brought on by my miscarriages? I used to enjoy going to work and my job. It's quite quiet at work at the moment. I thought it was only in the last few weeks that I started to get down about work but DH says I've been like this a while. I'm thinking maybe since first miscarriage.

There aren't many jobs in my field as my job is very specialised to me and my abilities and skills. Not typical job title. I kind of work in 2 departments. The pay is excellent and maternity package is decent. Which makes me feel I should stick it out. There's some stressful stuff going on at work just now, things which are going to challenge me so feel apprehensive of managing it or not.

I just wondered if anyone else felt down about work after miscarriage/s?

Not had a miscarriage, but do have 3 years of TTC under my belt.

My tuppence worth? I think everything you've written sounds absolutely normal. You've had 2 horrible things happen to you, of course you're feeling pretty crap.

Take the 2 weeks off that the GP has given you. Does your work know? Hopefully (but not guareenteed), they'll be sympathetic and give you a little slack.

You sound totally normal.

I could have written this post. Although mine was two chemical pregnancies so less distressing.
Work crap just seems meaningless at the moment, just want to yell "I don't give a fuck, I just want to be pregnant again" I also felt very fragile and tearful but it is slowly getting better at work. For me I started feeling better when I told colleagues about it, they were really understanding and it helped get a lot of my bottled up feelins off my chest.

Not saying that is the approach you should take. I just wanted to let you know what you are feeling sounds pretty normal. Take time to get over your losses, work should be understanding.

Oh and fx for a successful pregnancy really really soon.

Thanks both. I do think the miscarriages have set off my anxiety about other things that day to day I'm not usually anxious about. People at work were really supportive about the first one, I had people telling me about their difficult TTC journeys. This time only a couple of people know but I have a feeling one of them will let others know. I don't mind people knowing, makes things a bit easier. My manager is a guy but I have told him why I'm off and he's pretty sympathetic.

I think work just doesn't feel so important anymore as my future babies. Hopefully when I'm back I can throw myself back into work to take my mind off things. DH is really supportive and was crushed by both losses as well. He's a pretty positive person so tells me we will get our baby one day. Fingers crossed for next time.

Your dh sounds lovely (and he's right you will get your baby one day). Best of luck I am sure you will feel better about work soon.