What can I say?

[Ahhhtetley]

Myself and my dh have been ttc for a couple of years now, we have a gorgeous son but number 2 isn't happening.

We've been told by the specialist there's nothing wrong ;(

We are constantly being asked when we are going to have #2 and I'm running out of polite responses.

I've just found out a friend is expecting #2 and I know when she tells me she'll also ask when we are going to have a second. Apart from running and sobbing in a corner what can I say that doesn't come across as rude, but does mean 'stop fucking asking and leave me alone'!

The truth? We've told close friends that we are having problems and I am glad we did. It stops all kind of awkward questions. I feel quite strongly that infertility is nothing to be ashamed of so I talk about it quite openly.

Our close friends know, as do family but I'm a really private person and would rather not go into details with people who I would class as mates rather than good friends.

My close friends know. As for other people when they ask, 'so when are you having a baby then?' I say, 'well its not for the want of trying.' Soon stops the asking.

How about 'don't you just hate that question!'

I would be very brutally honest, and very brutally rude if someone asked me when we were having kids.

That's probably why no one has asked yet....

I go for "in our own good time, thank you very much" (snooty tone of voice optional) or "that's not something I would discuss with you - I think that's a very private thing" (again, sense of outrage variable from kind, gentle dismissal to STFU you insensitive moron). Both work.

Someone said on one of these threads something along the lines of , " we would like a second one but it is not happening as fast as we would like" or "we are working on it"

Just tell her that you've been going at it hammer and tongs practicing a lot, but ground control apparently hasn't cleared you for takeoff!