Am I the only one who is getting tired of graciously congratulating everyone else on their pregnancies when I really really want it to be me?

[Katnisscupcake]

Just having a rant really because you can't be ungracious or unsupportive in RL. But I am one of four friends who all have a DC the same age.

The youngest of our little group had her 2nd DC in March this year. I was happy for her but sad for me when she announced her PG last year, as DH was not happy about trying for a second baby. He was happy with the one and I never thought he would change his mind.

Forward-wind 6 months and DH did change his mind and we have just finished Cycle 3 with no luck. Now, I'm not expecting miracles as I'm 38, but when we have (very luckily) conceived first time each time before (one MC and DD), I'm getting more and more impatient, plus my age is worrying me.

I've now found out (through conversations) that the other two ladies are now TTC their 2nd DCs aswell. They are much younger than me (31 and 33) and it almost feels like a competition, which is stressing me out.

And as much as I would love --to- feel happy for them if they got PG, I would be gutted for me. I know that sounds horrid and selfish and mean, hence why I'm saying it on here and just sucking it up in RL.

I'm not the only one though, am I?

No you're definitely not alone in this! I too am fed up of painting on the smile and making the fake gushing "how wonderful" noises when all I want to do inside is crawl up in a ball and cry.

I can also identify with the competitiveness feeling too. I have this really horrible urge to shout how it was my idea first. That said I reckon I ought to accept that I have well and truly lost the competition because many of my friends are announcing babies number 2 in the time it has taken me to achieve nothing on the baby front.

No! You're not the only ones. Been ttc for almost five years. No dc yet. Mc in march 2011, nothing since then. Diagnosis of unexplained infertility totally crap. People who started the journey with us- family and friends completed their broods, of three, four five and even six children. While I am happy for them, I am extremely sad for me. Have to stop myself from asking their secrets- especially when they fall accidentally. Life is sooo unfair. It's a horrible place to be in.

No you aren't alone. We started Trying before all of our friends and now many of them will be going on to their 2nd now and we are still no further forward. I had to congratulate our gay friends recently on their pregnancy and they only started thinking about finding a surrogate less than a year ago. . You know you have problems when 2 men tell you they are expecting in less than half the time you have been trying!
Anyway best of luck.

My other half has actually fallen out of contact with a close friend because of this. It's very sad but somehow almost unavoidable. We don't even know where they live now.

Mind you, he was a RIGHT boring ba**d...

Sorry to hear you feel this way, just wanted to send hugs and to say I can imagine how you are feeling. I saw neighbour today with their little one who must be about 6 months old now. She's adorable. I was fixing up garden and she had her window open. I could hear her playing with her baby and baby was making adorable noises. I feel like a failure (no DCs yet).

I dread the day that someone tells me they are pregnant. Am sure it will happen soon, I know quite a lot of folk who are in the right situation and age! Feel bad for being bitter but can't be helped when you want something so much.

Well all, I am glad I'm not the only crazy loon out there!

My problem aswell is that I have to be in control of everything and I'm really really organised. I've done as much as I can to be in control of TTC but it really is in the lap of the Gods isn't it? There's only so much you can do...

It's got to the stage where I rejoice in one of my friends getting their period!! How awful is that???!!! , I think to myself "that buys me one more month" - terrible...

paolocee, I sympathise with your DP and actually feel like that myself sometimes, that it would be less painful if I distanced myself... Plus as all our DCs are the same age, we've also reached that competitive stage, again something that I hate, these girls do really seem to bring out the worst in me...

CD3 today, maybe this will be my month hey?