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Conception

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How soon do you tell your partner...

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Lmccrean · 03/03/2006 17:05

Im a few days late and panicking. Did you tell your partner that you suspect you may be pregnant before or after you do the test...if i am he may get annoyed I didnt tell him 1st, but dont want to worry him unnecessarily...we arent really in the having a baby stage in our relationship (though if its coming, we better get into it!)

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MamaG · 03/03/2006 17:09

I would tell him now. You shouldn't go through this alone - it took two to get into this situation! My first baby was a surprise and I told DP as soon as I suspected. 6 1/2 years on I wouldn't be without her for the world and the support I got from DP (now DH) was invaluable and brought us closer together.

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Lmccrean · 03/03/2006 17:15

this (may be) my 2nd unplanned pregnancy...I have a 3 yr old too, not to my current partner. my partner and I have a very on/off relationship til recently when he went thru counselling and everything is rosy...am panicking in case he thinks Im trying to trap him! (but I would be a single mum all over again, if I had to.)

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yomellamoHelly · 03/03/2006 17:17

I waited to get it confirmed at a family planning clinic. Took 6 days. Then told dh who said he thought he'd known for a couple of weeks because my waist seemed thicker than usual.
Just don't tell him just before going to bed - poor dh had a sleepless night!

PeachyClair · 03/03/2006 17:47

I told my dh before the test, he wasn't my Dh then though. In fact it was MArch and I had met him only in September, been together three months as got together in December. We were engaged and living together thoughwhich in retrospect is but hey we're still together and happy.

CarolinaMoon · 03/03/2006 18:06

I would do a test first then tell him the result either way.

To me, it always seems kind of unfair to tell him before, because he's got no way of knowing whether you are or not, whereas at least you know your own symptoms and you can actually do the test iyswim.

RubyMummy · 03/03/2006 20:21

Test first - ime Men like definites not maybes!

ja9 · 04/03/2006 21:31

My dh would go mental if i tested without him there...

laurenhannah · 04/03/2006 21:36

Take a test first then tell him - it would be a shame to put a strain on the relationship without a positive reason.

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Lmccrean · 10/03/2006 14:56

thank s everyone, told him on sunday and we went and bought a test and took it..he read results...then bought me more test 2 days ago cause "it" hasnt turned up yet..still negative and have appointment on monday...what other reasons could there be for missing a period? not stressed really, no change in diet or exercise...belly feels different, but it could all be in my head

(oh, and partner seemed pleased that i might be, but now we know im not, he announced that he had always thought we would start trying in 2 1/2 years...i hadnt even thought about it, and hes been planning for months!)

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