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We agreed to wait but i'm broody now!

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seashellgreen81 · 13/07/2012 10:48

Hi. I'm just looking for a place to vent my feelings really as I don't think there's an 'answer' as such to my problem. I lost a baby last November when I was 5 months pregnant. It was our 1st pregnancy. Although we both love children and I had been terribly broody for a couple of years beforehand the pregnancy was not planned and I was suprised how it stressful it was for both of us. We do not own our own house, the house we currently live in is not suitable for a baby and my boyfriend is 'between jobs.' Also my boyfriend really seemed to be freaked out at the prospect of becoming a father at a time when none of his friends are doing this. Loosing our baby was incredibly hard for us both but was also a very bonding experience. We decided that we would wait a while before trying again and maybe live abraod for a year beforehand. We are currently looking into going to Australia for a year. The thing is I have started to feel broody again in the last couple of months and it is getting me down not knowing when we are going to be ready to have a family. It was such a difficult time for us as a couple when we found out that I was pregnant that it has put me off talking about it. I've even thought about 'accidentally' becoming pregnant again even though I know that this caused a lot of problems between us last time. I fantasise about a time when we will both happily make the decision together to have a baby but fear this time might not come.

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AThingInYourLife · 13/07/2012 10:51

At least wait until you have something more permanent than a boyfriend before you start planning a family.

seashellgreen81 · 13/07/2012 11:24

I did not put this message on here for my relationship to be judged. We have our own reasons for not being married but we are both in our early thirties and have lived together for 10 years. We are wholly committed to eachother and judge this relationship to be 'permanent.' Your comment confuses me.

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CaipirinhasAllRound · 13/07/2012 11:31

I would say go to Australia and have fun. If you still feel the same when you're there, you can always start trying for a baby there.

Travelling and living abroad is amazing and would be harder to do - although of course not impossible - once you have children. A change of scenery might also provide a distraction and you may find you become less broody having some different to focus on

Good luck

seashellgreen81 · 13/07/2012 11:41

Thanks CaipirinhasAllRound, I think deep down I know you're right. I was having a bit of a moan really! I think i'm becoming aware thatme and my partner need to change something in our lives. It's difficult loosing a pregnancy and carrying on with the life just as before. Thanks for your response.

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CaipirinhasAllRound · 13/07/2012 11:47

Moan away! we've been trying for 2 and a half years with no sniff of a pregnancy
I've done the feeling in limbo bit but have decided to carry on with my life - it might never happen or it might take 5 years and I don't want to look back and think I wasted the years we were trying.

seashellgreen81 · 13/07/2012 12:04

That's put things in perspective for me. Life's all about the journey. Thanks again for your wisdom. :-)

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