When will it be my turn?

[phoenixrose314]

Hi everyone, my name is Laura, I'm a 26yo nursery teacher, and me and hubby are actively trying for a baby, and have been for a while.
Unfortunately, I suffer with severe endometriosis and have miscarried 3 times in the past 5 years, the first being the most devastating as I was fifteen weeks pregnant and very happy. I am beginning to feel like it will never happen for me, everyone around me is falling pregnant, and I feel like I can't even talk about it to the people around me because I'm boring them.

It's on my mind all the time, and it's driving me crazy. Hubby is supportive but doesn't want a baby the same way that I do because he already has 2 children from a previous marriage.

Please can someone just reassure me, somehow, that I'm not some mental baby obsessed woman and that it will all be alright in the end??

Hello! I'm really sorry to hear of your losses, it's absolutely horrible.

This is not really an area that I know much about and I'm sure more experienced mumsnetters will be more useful than anything I have to say, but just to say it's very very easy for even the most sane person to get obsessed with ttc. And with your history, it's totally understandable that it's driving you crazy. It must also be particularly hard for you working in a nursery and seeing young children and babies all the time. All I can suggest is keeping busy with distraction techniques - whether that is chatting on a non conception pregnancy thread on mumsnet, going out exercising, seeing friends, shopping, etc etc. The more you are focussed on other things, the more relaxed you will be and there seems to be some evidence to show that being relaxed is good for baby making!

Have you seen your GP as 5 years seems a fair while? I'm not sure if there is anything that can be (medically) done about your condition, but certainly many people do seem to get pg despite having it! Good luck!!