ttc in march06

[spinamum]

no point joining the feb thread for me!

we've been trying for a year. ds is going to be at least three if i become pg.(not that the age is a big issue,just not my plan)

not aware of any probs. anyone else out there feel a bit deflated too?

am on feb thread, and also been trying for a year, without sucsess, i now had blood tests, found out not ovulating, waiting to be referd to fertilty clinc, but as gp says some months i could stil ovulate, so i use a persona, and still around right time do bding.
so come and join us

Been trying for no. 2 for nearly 1.5 years, whereas dd1 conceived on 1st cycle. Our age gap will now be huge...... at least 5.5 yrs . Currently on clomid for secondary infertilty/sub-fertility. All tests indicated no problems with myself or DH. But age now creeping into it - Me 34.5, DH 35. Wishing you both the best of luck & tonnes of babydust too. Hopefully 2006 will be our year...... Iona x

Me too.... dd is 10 1/2 months and Dh and I have been thinking about trying for no 2 since about Christmas. unfortunately, both DH and I are taking it in turns to get this nasty cold virus that's going round and it's putting the nookie seriously on hold . One or other of us has been poorly since min January. Hoping it passes soon so we can get down to it in earnest in March.

I have a 3.5 year old, and have been ttc for 8 months. I have had 1 miscarriage in December. My age bothers me too - I am 34 this year and husband is 41. Also - the age gap will be bigger than i would have wanted in "the ideal world". Yes it gets me down and i do feel very deflated. In fact I am SO determined this month - i am on day 10 - I tend to ovulate late around day 20ish - but I have done something i swore i would not do and that is make a schedule for when we "do it" - i think i have been just hoping for many months and this is the way to go for us now before i admit there may be a problem. good luck to you all this month!

me and dh been trying for just over 2 years have had blood tests etc done and have appointment at fertility clinic end of march. on cd 32 of 35 day cycle so fingers crossed

ive had bllod tests they show am not ovulating, been sent to fertilty clinc, still waiting, am 40 in april, dh is 30, got ds4 in june

i am 25 and dh is 41, i ttc with dd dad when she was 6 months with no luck and my doctor has worked out i have been ttc for just over 4 years, i just feel so useless.

Hi there everyone. I don't tend to get too involved in the ttc threads but I am ttc no.4 atm and so just wanted to poke my head in here and wish everyone all the best as at some point we may end up on an antenatal thread together, you never know! I have dd1 aged 8, dd2 aged 7, and ds aged 6 months. We want another with a similar age gap to the dds. I am still b/fing ds though and he has only just stopped the night feeds, and af hasn't returned, so I suspect it could be a while yet. Good luck to everyone

liandme what your bloods show?
good luck to everyone, and baby dust to all

Miaou, lets hope we do end up on antenatal thread

klou how long is your cycle if you ovulate around day 20? I am the same but my cycle is only about 27 days - not much gap there! I am 34 and dh is 34 also. We spent nearly 5 years ttc ds and now have been ttc again for another 9 months....frustrating stuff!

Hi everyone! I'm a newbie to MN, and we're just starting to ttc #4. Our 3 children are now 5, 3, and 1... and I'd love a few more. Tried last month and I totally convinced myself that I was pregnant, but obviously not the case! Hoping to fall fairly soon as DH thinks he's getting too old for all this baby stuff, but he's only coming up to 35 this year (I'm 29), so I'm sure he can handle it!

Hi
Also ttc nr 2.
Been trying since start feb last year and am feeling it esp since anniversary of starting ttc has come and gone.
All my ante-natal class friends ( from with ds) have also already either had or are heavily pregnant with nr 2, so am feeling a bit left behind (ridiculous I know).
Ds will now be at least 3 when sib finally arrives.
Currently booking a summer holiday (in Sept) and had the what if I'm 7 months pregnant conversation with dh. Had this conversation already last year. Feeling totally convinced it's not going to be an issue somehow.
B**r!

its good to know am not the only one like this, even though i feel for you all as i know how hard it can be,
yomellamoHelly we wanting to book for sept to
but dont know what to do.

coggy, i am a 26dc too, but if you get stressed you can delay ovulation, but if you ovulate on dat 20 af usaly 10 days after, so it would be a 30ish cycle

Hi! We're also ttc our 2nd this month. Have been trying since last summer with only a miscarriage to show for our efforts. I've decided finally to join a ttc thread to see if it brings any better luck. Good to know I won't be the only one with fingers crossed in March.

Trace2, yomellamoHelly, IKWYM about holidays. We had a dither about booking holidays back in Sept for June this year - we too had conversation about "what if I'm seriously pg?!" but decided to go ahead as we'd only lose the deposit if we found out in the next few months, and it was cheapest to book back then rather than wait. As it happens I'm glad we've got the holiday to look forward to, cos there's nowt else at the moment.

Currently dithering about getting some new summer clothes. My summer stuff (esp for work)is getting really ancient but I keep hoping that I'll need to get maternity stuff instead and don't want to waste the money.

Generally getting a bit fed up of putting bits of my life on hold 'just in case', avoiding eating food that I like, and worrying about the age gap between DS and next one getting bigger and bigger (now up to 3 years).

Here's to a load of little blue lines appearing in March.

hi babydriver, come and join us on our thread, and everyone else who whats to join us.
here a link to chat thread.
chat

Hi. I'm ttc with #2. First time round, had irregular periods, of only 5 per year, so subfertility and managed to get pregnant first month trying.

Thought it would be a doodle this time too, as since giving birth my periods have been monthly... and would you believe it, now I have regular periods, I can't seem to get preggers! Darn it!

Hi, I'm also on day 10 Klou and no sign of ovulation yet, but DH is out tonight anyway LOL!! This is my first cycle TTC as I had coil out on 11th Feb. Having some pains down there at the mo, hope they don't prevent me and him doing the BD though!!
Good luck everyone.

So now on day 11 and no sign of ovulation. Honestly i just am not in the mood for sex - my question is this - does anyone "do it" just because there is a chance of getting pregnant? or even though it may be the right time "cycle " wise and you DON't feel like it do you just do it anyway/ I have a huge issue with this and just do it to get pregnant - it that really awful?? I love my husband very much but our sex life is pretty bad - which for making babies is not good really is it? I 've not shared this with anyone and i feel alone with this and it really gets me down.... we did get pregnant but i had a m/c in december....

Klou, really sorry about the m/c. And really know what you mean about "duty sex" rather than the other sort - although we do still do the fun stuff too when time/tiredness/general inclination permit! We've tried to make sure we do it at the right time, but sometimes it really hasn't felt right so we haven't bothered. They say that around ovulation you feel more sexy so if you're completely not bothered at the moment it maybe that you haven't ov'd yet?

For what it's worth, I've found I'm much less bothered about initiating sex and don't miss it much now that I've got DS1, but equally when we do do it it's much better than it was. So I do try and fight the automatic instinct just to say I'm tired and find I do enjoy it when we get down to it. Everyone's different tho, and it depends on your partner too, so I don't know if that's helpful or not.

Wtf is up with my cycle, after three months tracking it I've had 31 days, 29 days and now 24! I have never had a cycle that short. I thought yesterday it might be implantation (joy!) but today it is heavier and feels more menstrual/crampy (though it is still lighter than normal.) How am I ever going to figure out my dates at this rate.
Just needed to rant for a bit!

Hi skerriesmum et al , been following your thread for the last few days, this is my virgin message to MN and all you TTC'rs out there ( good luck ). Me too trying in March and before ( 3 months so far). Also age 42 and TTC for DS/DD #2. Your last thread resonated with me skerriesmum, usually pretty regular periods - 27/28 days but since trying, they have been all over the place, my last b4 this one 24 days. Methinks it could have been a conception gone wrong at the start, it fertilised , but then didn't implant and then you get very heavy, fleshy, clotty periods ( sorry about the graphic detail folks !). Don't want to get too anxious at this stage but wondering about secondary infertility ( I thought I was infertile b4 I became pregnant with DS, so it was a bit of a surprise) Anyway scattering lots of babydust to you all. I've picked up a lot of good info by checking this site and I am taking all the natural supplements. I've also got a tilted womb so I am pretty much up against it. Any further advice out their for a BFP?

Thanks K1K2, maybe that's what happened to me as the period was also longer and heavier than usual. One positive thing, a tilted uterus shouldn't affect your chances of conceiving... my GP told me that during my recent smear.
Good luck to all!

Thanks SKMum for answering so soon and making me feel welcome to MN and the March Thread - how's it going girls?? Another thing that I am up against ttc is DH ( or not so dear at the moment to me) & his reluctance to do "it" on demand when I think I might be ovulating. It is causing tension between us. Today I am very low because he possibly blew a chance to conceive by not having sex this morning, and I think that'll be it for this month because eggs as you know don't last long. Does anyone know of any active threads where this subject is discussed at length? I 've seen the one about negative responses from family and friends - I am getting that too because of high my high risk age and also because of what happened to me with DS post partum- I had a haemorrhage following a caesarean ( which is unusual). I am under so much pressure from all around me not to have no. 2. It makes me , and also of all my newly acquired female friends in the post natal group that I have kept contact with since DS, who, nearly all of them have a number 2 or one on the way. I feel very alone at the moment and it's discussions like yours that keep me going. Another disincentive is the money, we can only just about afford to keep a house and pay for nursery fees for no. 1 etc., let alone 2- and my dh has quite clearly stated that he wants not to have to use every penny he earns on other things and nothing on himself ( he is also younger than me , that's another factor in the complicated conception trial I am facing ). Anyway I am up way too late posting to this thread. Hope it continues - look forward to any convos, and the inevitable scattering of babydust xx