The All New TTC whilst Breastfeeding Support Thread

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Have a breastfed baby or toddler? Why not try for another one?! Who needs sleep anyway?

Come join us whether you are waiting for your first period in months or are are a few months into trying.

Weeyun hadn't read your posts when I last posted - sorry to hear about chemical pregs. When we first tried to get preg I had one, maybe two, without knowing what it was, then got preg again and thought hurrah but at 13 week scan told was a missed MC, then finally had DS and thought all would be OK next time - but had early MC around 5 weeks (same time as previously). If it's any consolation, I truly don't think BF is the cause - I've only been BF for one of mine after all. Apparently chem preg and early MC affects 1 in 4 or 5 pregnancies (depending who you speak to) - high chance either way eh? Personally I've come to rationalise it's nature's way - if all is not right chromosomally or hormonally then better the preg stops early. Hard for us tho. Testing early is a poisoned chalice - I always want to know, especially now I'm eligible for early scans to reassure me, which apparently dramatically increases chances of pregnancy lasting - I had a bleed at 6 weeks with DS when working in NY and was convinced it was over. Had a scan, saw heartbeat and, well, he's here and I adore him! But anyway, I've been told if you can conceive while BF BF won't affect the pregnancy thereafter.....fingers crossed for us all x

Tizzy that's the reason I don't test early. I have heard the same statistics about 1 in 4 or 5 pregnancies end in early MC. And we don't know about it a generation ago because we don't have such early pregnancy tests.

Thanks for this thread. Really helpful. Good luck everyone
. Marking place and will be backup but 20 mo needs breakfast after boob....

One - exactly! que sera sera ...........

Cd1! AF finally made a proper appearance overnight so that was a monster 38 day cycle! Actually I'm just glad it's here now and I've got a new cycle to try again! Actually that's going to be a tricky decision, as if I conceived before 25th September I wont be eligible for mat pay- if I have another long cycle I might just be close enough to make the dates work, but will risk missing out by about 7 days if I have my normal 32 day cycle! I think we'll just go for it though, and hope my new employers are nice enough to take into account my previous service (nhs) or just overlook the few days out
anyway it's all theoretical unless I can actually get pg!!

perpetual so sorry about AF but at least we can be cycle buddies this month!

tizzy welcome back and fx for tomorrow!!!

one I wish I could be sensible like you re early testing but at least this cycle I didn't get a bfp so my hopes were never raised too much

Oh by the way, does anyone know if you can have had a CP without a bfp? I am still wondering what went on this cycle and a CP might just be a possibility. For me, in a way that would be better than the alternative which is that my ovaries are struggling generally ( strong family history of premature menopause which I admit scares the pants off me

thinkingof4 I reckon you would be able to be just about pg without a bfp as some people don't get their bfp until quite late on. I felt really sick on 10dpo this cycle, so wonder if there's a slight chance that happened for me. More likely wishful thinking!

Yes I def felt a bit sick for 2 or 3 days jennimoo
Strangest thing is that I seem to have loads of milk the last couple of days. Ds cam hardly cope with it, where normally I'd expect to have less when AF is here. It all seems a bit odd, but I guess I'll never know the answer so might as well forget it!

Hmmmm, the milk thing is really strange. I reckon you could have a CP before a BFP just about. Hpt's show as positive if hcg is over 20 units I think. And hcg levels double every 24 hrs in the first days of pregnancy so would be easy to miss it. We'll never know and perhaps best we don't! I keep thinking that maybe we conceived this month but didn't really stand a chance due to the shortish LP. Very frustrating. I think we should offer ourselves to some research crew and be hooked up to hormone monitoring devices so we could find out just wtf is going on!
Oh well, we're all back in the game for next month. I might try the old legs up the wall trick this month. This baby making lark is so glamorous!

Legs up the wall

Well I'm feeling very positive with the new month, new cycle and new job next week. Who knows maybe ds3 will even sleep through the night sometime soon!

Keeping fx for tizzy over the weekend

Thanks for fx all but no go this time for me I'm afraid . actually felt really guilty cuddling and feeding ds1, can't help feeling sorry for the fact that I may not be able to give him a little brother or sister. Hormones not helping I suppose but still, a distinct possibility what with all the challenges. Don't want to be negative tho so going to focus on my beautiful boy ... and have a glass of vino!

Sorry about that tizzy
I suppose when AF arrives it's always a time for reflection and it's ok to feel a bit negative for a few days. But then you just have to pick yourself up and try again. Here's hoping for some bfps this month

Sorry Tizzy about AF and feeling down.

AF has left now so I better start looking at when I'm likely to ovulate this month and warn tell DH. I'm pretty sure the window is next weekend: when the in laws are staying!

Ohh I knew there'd be a thread with you ladies on!! Can I join?

I'm still bf In the day and countless times at night. Ds is 9.5 months. ( am
I mad to ttc #2???, I am, aren't I!!).

I haven't had a period yet though (major bouts of pmt this weekend though and a tiny drop of blood when I wipe (sorry tmi on an intro right?!) So, anyone ttcing without aunt flo??

Muchkinsmama I think you can be ovulating without AF. Have you googled if OPK will work without AF? I guess you could try to just DTD every 2-3 days and hope for the best!

tizzy I'm not having any luck this cycle either. I'm in my fertile window according to fertility friend. But DH has injured himself so aren't in any mood to DTD. I'm staying positive for the next cycle.

I'm learning quite a bit from the fertility friend tutorial actually. I'm going to order some preseed from amazon. I didn't even know regular lube is hostile to sperms!

Well, AF finished up yesterday so I will now be embarking on my campaign of DTD every other day until AF shows her ugly face again. DH isn't complaining and probably would prefer to TTC a bit longer as he's not going to be getting very lucky for quite a while once I'm PG!

Thinkingof4, hope we're not cycle buddies for long -- maybe see you on an antenatal thread instead?

How's everyone else getting on?

Sorry about AF Tizzy, better luck next month.

Welcome Munchkin!

I don't strictly belong here but I'm enjoying lurking as I'm bf my nearly 10 mo and thinking about ttc in the next 6-12 months. My period returned last month which is why we've started to think about it. Interested to see how it's going for people, as I don't intend to give up bf ever soon and would like another one at some stage in the next 2 years. Will get back to reading the thread now

Evening guys and welcome to all our new recruits.
My body is falling to pieces. Ended up with a dry socket after having the wisdom tooth out and now got what I think is mastitis!! What's that all about? Never had it in my life! Guess its coz ds is feeding less. I feel ok though, just got a sore red boob so hoping Kelly moms advice will prevent a trip to the drs. Currently got a hot water bottle down my nightie!!
As for the baby making, on day 13 andI got all excited when my boob started to hurt! Thought it may have been ovulation coming on time for once, rather than late. Then it really started hurting and my hopes have faded fast
Going to start with my new CB digital opks tmrw and better start getting some action in. Dh says I only want him for one thing and he'd be right!

Jakeyblueblue Hope your mastitis gets better quickly. It's rubbish when you get poorly just at the wrong time isn't it? And my DH said the same thing about I just want him for one thing lol.

Is it full-blown mastitis or still a blocked duct Jakey? If it's mastitis, I think you need antibiotics to clear it up, but if it's still just a blocked duct you have a narrow window to clear it before it gets infected. I have gotten them every time we go through some sort of feeding transition, but have always been able to clear them by massaging them in a hot shower (sometimes for up to an hour - but it works).

Good luck getting it cleared xx

Aw jakey hope you are feeling better, it's no fun being sore
Welcome mummysmellsofsick and munchkinsmama

You def can conceive before first AF so good luck- I remember talking about catching the first egg a few months ago but to be fair we haven't been trying properly up till now so hopefully you will manage it!

perpetual yes hope to see you somewhere else soon!

I'm not officially TTC till 25th so will probably be too late for this cycle by then unless I have another wonky delayed ov type thing. I have (at last ) started my new job which is going to be v busy so I'll need some settling in time and if I fall pg before then I would miss getting mat pay by a few days and then hopefully I'll be properly ready!

I dont really know what it was perpetual. I've never had either before but my boob was really really sore and had a red line appear on it. I couldn't feel any lumps or anything and I felt fine physically. Whatever it was, it's better today. The redness has gone and it's less sore. Fingers crossed that's the last of that!

Cd14 and ewcm! No positive opk yet but usually dont get a positive until ive had 2 days of ewcm. Could ov actually be on time this cycle?!!!!!

jakey good luck!

I'm just a couple of days behind,cd11, and planning to start opks today. Don't have much luck with them, although did get a + the cycle DD was conceived! I think then I was trying not drinking or peeing for a couple of hours before testing. Not so easy to plan with a toddler... I thought as I have lots of opks I'd try twice a day, maybe 12 and 7 or something, to see when works for me. Anyone got any tips on that?