Anyone donated eggs to a family member?

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My diss has just had a ds after 4 IVF attempts. She suffered badly from OHSS during the pregnancy and as a result her right ovary which was the better one, could be damaged. She would love another baby in a couple of years and I have offered to donate eggs if she needs them.

I'm just wondering if anyone on here has done this, and was it difficult? Did it cause any problems down the line at all?

Thanks

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hi, have name changed but have been on MN a while

I received ED from my sister and had my DC last year. She is in fact pregnant herself (so hasn't cause infertility problems for her)

As for difficulty - on the receiving end, no not really. We had compulsory counseling, all together (DP, DBil, Dsis and myself) and then separately as couples too. Dsis had always offered to do it and for me, that was an a amazing offer. For it then to work was just a miracle.

For the person receiving it that would most likely need to go through a process of reflection themselves. Like grieving the ability to have your "own" children with your "own" eggs. This may take time.

Likewise, for your sisters partner/husband - what does he think on the matter? He may not be too comfortable accepting a child that 'isn't his' iyswim? Some people see it that way, that the egg doesn't belong to them but everyone is different.

Now my DC is here, it's not even a subject. DC looks nothing like my sister (all like her dad) and just has similar mannerisms to 'our' side of the family, rather than of me or my sister.

Dsis is on MN, so may well post herself (hence name change!! :o )

I donated to my sister about 5 years ago, and now have a gorgeous niece to show for it. No major problems at all (but complicated by the fact we live at opposite ends of the world!) I did a diary about the process on fertilityfriends (as found v little online from perspective of donor.) You should be able to find it if you go there and search the forums under my name there: c l u c k c l u c k (take out all the spaces, obviously!)
Good luck!