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DulcetMoans · 13/05/2012 22:29

In the space of 6 months I have gone from 'im never having babies' to 'I must have a baby'. It was a surprise to me as much as anyone. Not that anyone knows, I haven't shared it with my closest friends even. That's how I have ended up here at Mumsnet. A quick google search of some of my biggest questions led me here everytime so I decided this is the place I need to be!

So, from July we plan to start trying for a baby. I have been losing weight since before Christmas (2st 5lb now - chuffed much!) and I plan to shed another stone before we start. The doctor has told me about the importance of folic acid (not that I really understood what the importance was, just that it is important!) and the second bedroom is on it's way to being painted.

It actually feels really good to say these things! So far it has only been discussions between me and my partner and, whilst I am excited, I am so scared and don't really have a clue what I am doing. But that's normal, right??

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Mayamama · 14/05/2012 09:13

Very normal ;) I remember (vaguely, it seems like such a long time now even though I was planning for the first just 6 years and a bit ago!) what elated and scared feelings I had. Also, I remember a number of things I used to be so certain of, and which never happened, such as me and DH sharing the baby load from day one...I guess, now I think I should have forced myself to hand the baby over to him much more, but I just did not feel he was able to do it...This is something I wish I would have done differently - more time and energy for me, closer relationship between daddy and DS... I also remember some ideas which I trew out of my head as soon as DS1 arrived, and rightly so :) Second bedroom was one of them, and I am glad I never tried to dump DS there. He slept next to me and is now a 5 year old who is very close to me, as am I to him :). Which means that I understand when I am not doing very well as a mum, and will recognise when I need to look for more guidance and advice.
You'll be helped on your way by various sources, in fact, you'll be showered with advice, good and bad; you'll be torn between yourself and the baby; your other obligations and the baby, the whole world and the baby... You'll have ups and downs, tears of joy and sadness -- but as long as kindness to the baby is your main leading goal, you'll do all right.
Folic acid, btw, is vital for developing nerves and can prevent very very serious birth defects. So to make a healthy baby, you as his/her source of building blocks of life is better with plenty of it :)

LimeLeafLizard · 14/05/2012 10:05

Welcome to MN. Pull up a chair and make yourself a Brew. You'll get plenty of reassurance, sound advice and banter on here.

congrats on your weight loss - that is very impressive.

DulcetMoans · 14/05/2012 10:37

Thanks both. My first replies! haha. I know I sound like a total n00b, I have been on forums before. Just so detatched from all things motherly that I am a bit lost!

Just found the acronym glossary, that will come in handy. I was a little bit lost but had just about worked out DH/DD/DS. BFT was beyond me but I get it now.

Thank you for the folic acid update, she didn't really explain fully. Just wrote it down and said to start with it before we try to concieve.

I think I will like it here. Looking forward to advice and banter. And tea of course!

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