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Anyone TTC after Ectopic Pregnancy?

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iloveberries · 24/04/2012 13:49

That's it really! I am getting ready to TTC again after an Ectopic and tube removal in March 2012. Wondered if there was anyone else out there who was actively TTC following EP?

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BulletProofMum · 24/04/2012 13:52

No longer TTC - just wishing you luck, My DD was conceived about 3 mnths after my ectopic and tube were removed.

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iloveberries · 24/04/2012 13:58

oh wow, that makes me want to cry. It is possible then!
went to see my GP yesterday who told me i was in for a long tough road and it was going to be very hard now i only have one tube :(
I know it statistically is harder but i want to believe that it's possible!
Thanks for the luck and well done on DD :)

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BulletProofMum · 24/04/2012 14:19

I had my left tube removed and a 6cm cyst on my right ovary. I had pretty much accepted that it was over for me (althoguh hadn't been trying int he first place - my ectopic was due to a Mirena coil being in situ). The egg had crossed from one ovary to the tube on the other side.

It must have happened on my third cycle afterwards and the first time that the timings were there and got my lovely girl!

Kay098 · 24/04/2012 14:25

I went on to have 2DC after an ectopic and tube removal, 1st one conceived after 1mth trying, 2nd after 3mth trying. Good luck x

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iloveberries · 24/04/2012 16:28

thanks, having a very emotional week so nice to hear some positive stories!

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iloveberries · 04/05/2012 12:07

anyone out there?!!

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schobe · 04/05/2012 12:12

I'm here skulking about.

Had ep and tube removed almost exactly 2 years ago. BUT we haven't been trying since then as DC2's special needs became more apparent. However we did try for a couple of months about a year ago and had a v early miscarriage in that time. AND I'm ancient (fertility-wise). So it can be done.

We're now not preventing pregnancy iyswim but I'm a bit pessimistic and also worried about SN too, so am not putting heart and soul into it.

How old are you and do you already have DC? (If you don't mind me asking.)

joby21 · 04/05/2012 12:22

hey. Have mentioned on another thread that my hubby and i are ttc. Had my right tube removed december 2011. The ectopic was my first pregnancy so hoping the next one is a bit more successful!

toobreathless · 04/05/2012 13:56

Hi there!

Another positive story here. I had my left tube removed in June 2010 & concieved the following month. DD is now 12 months old. I'm currently TTC number two!

I remember some very dark times, but there is hope Xx

Countmyblessings · 04/05/2012 14:19

Hi I had an ectopic in left tube in 06 but no medical treatment was needed as caught early, had my son in 2010 then last year had an MMC at 12 weeks! And on Monday had my right tube removed as I was 7 weeks pregnant and baby never made it to my womb!
I'm looking towards the future and def want to try as soon as I recover from the surgery! Abit scared of it all!
Praying positive vibes for all who wants to try again!
Here to sucessful stories after the heartache!

MrsGubbins · 04/05/2012 14:42

also had an ectopic and tube removed in Nov 2009, had acupuncture to encourage ovulation on my tubed side and got pregnant in the following Feb.

good luck!

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iloveberries · 04/05/2012 19:18

hi schobe - i have a DS (2yrs) and I'm 32 so feel very lucky to have my DS and also a bit grateful that time is (kind of) on my side....

I am currently ovulating on my 2nd cycle since EP but have been told by gynae to wait 2 cycles before trying again so resisting the urge to bonk like crazy - and am feeling frisky to boot so being very sensible about it all!

had never heard of acupuncture to help with it all. Think i'll try a couple of natural months and then see.....

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schobe · 07/05/2012 14:34

Hellooo!

Sorry, been away. Yes, time is DEFinitely on your side so try to be reassured on that. If you search on ectopic or ep on mumsnet, you'll find positive stories of people going on to have more children aplenty. Encouraging reading while you wait to try again!

Countmyblessings · 09/05/2012 00:16

Nice for positives after such negatives I guess when you try for awhile and you have 2 tubes you feel it's just bad timing sometimes or something wrong with you or otherhalf,But when you have 1 you then have to focus and pray!
Positive vibes and looking forwards to hearing good news real soon!

ThoughtfulOne · 09/05/2012 15:20

I'm TTC after a traumatic ruptured EP in January. No luck so far. It is terrifying and frustrating in equal measures. I wish I could just forget about it and enjoy the BD!

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iloveberries · 10/05/2012 09:02

Hi thoughtful - i understand the terrifying/frustrating part. It is hard enough TTC with 2 tubes!! Did you fall pregnant quickly the last time? Did they check out your remaining tube when you had the surgery? Do you have DCs?
Hope you don't mind all the questions. Nice to find someone going through the same thing....

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Countmyblessings · 10/05/2012 18:01

Thinking of you - Thoughtful it must be so hard!

ThoughtfulOne · 10/05/2012 19:45

Thanks for kind word countmyblessings.

iliveberries, although my tube ruptured they repaired it rather than remove it as I had damage to my other one. So good I have two tubes still but bad they are both damaged. I have no DCs but everyone around me seems to! I try not to be crazy but my last ally in RL just announced she is pregnant with triplets!

I got pregnant really quickly with the ectopic which is meant to be a good sign but then again who knows! Glad we've found each other for support.

Have you found the ectopic pregnancy trust website by the way? They are great.

Countmyblessings · 10/05/2012 20:44

Thoughtful - the only thing in which I know I'm blessed that I have dc and my youngest ds is 2! He came just after I lost my mum and after I thought I wouldn't have anymore it just wasn't happening had my dd in 2000!
So the age gap ain't close and I wonder why, everyone else was just having them!( ectopic 1 in 06,MMC in 11 and now this)
It must be heartbreaking and I can't even imagine how You are feeling!
Holding hands sounds good to me!!!!

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iloveberries · 13/05/2012 19:05

Hi thoughtful - that must be very hard to have your last ally fall pregnant, esp with triplets. It is good that you fell quickly though. wish you all the best and a healthy pregnancy soon.

I did find the ectopic trust site but TBH I find MN more helpful for the support side of things.

How are you feeling at the moment count?

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Countmyblessings · 14/05/2012 00:24

Sad, down, lonely - month as of yesterday from BFP to now do much has changed and I just can't believe it!!!
I have also looked on the ESW! And just don't see as much constant posting as you do on here! I think MN is much more easier to write on find your way around etc, I notice people will also read your posts but not reply which I don't like as it like the topic you have written is not worthy of a reply and can be like that for ages!

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iloveberries · 14/05/2012 07:26

Oh count, how is your DH handling things? Can you talk to him? It is a very lonely thing as there's not many people who know how you feel is there?

The 'milestones' are horrible. I had a major wobble at what would have been my 12 week mark as a few friends announced pregnancies and now i know i have to watch them go through the milestones I would/should have had.

It is so hard. I don't know if this helps but I just deal with it by telling myself that although it is brutal, cruel, unfair etc, that pregnancy wasn't to be. It's shit but it just wasn't meant to be.

While you're off work what are you up to? It really hasn't been that long so if all you want to do is curl up on the sofa then do that but if you can face it maybe get out for a walk with DS. I would STRONGLY recommend staying away from softplays or playgroups for a while as too many bumps are not fun to see at this stage. It will get easier though, i promise x

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ThoughtfulOne · 14/05/2012 09:13

I can second that, it does get easier. The first time I saw small children after my op I burst into tears. I didnt want to see my nieces and nephews and I felt terrible all the time. 5 months on, although I do still think about what might have been it isn't with the same gut wrenching pain. I am enjoying my nieces and nephews again. It has helped talking to a few close people about how I feel, even if they don't really get it, they know you are hurting and somehow that acknowledgment helps.

Distraction techniques work wonders, planning holidays, taking up a new hobby, drinks with friends, ridiculous plot lines in box set DVDs etc

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Countmyblessings · 09/06/2012 00:57

Hi all it's gone abit quiet on here!!! Although I see some of you on other threads! My 1st AF after my op has turned up and the physical and mental pain was quite hard the pain was awful!!!!
It's bittersweet glad to have a cycle body working! But just another reminder I'm not pregnant and have to start all over!!!

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iloveberries · 09/06/2012 08:36

hey count - i am still here, and still TTC after ectopic!!

i've ovulated so just a waiting game now - trying not to think about it and just get on with life and if it happens it happens :)

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