who else has unexplained infertilty???

[blondebaby111]

Been ttc for over 4 years..been told no problems..therefore have unexplained infertiity! Is that really an answer tho?? I keep torturing myself that they might have missed something. I think i could come to terms with ivf alot easier if there was a problem but i'm heading down a road i never dreamed i'd have to go down. Who else feels like this

I can sympathise with everything you are feeling. We also have a diagnosis of "unexplained infertility". We have been trying properly for 18 cycles and didn't really use contraception for a couple of years before that, so it is taking a loooooong time. We were due to start our NHS IVF cycle a couple of weeks ago, but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. I think I would have found it easier to start if I knew that it would solve a particular problem (I have friends who have had success with it for failure to ovulate and lack of sperm). We have put it off for a couple of cycles and will try IUI instead. We're trying it unmedicated, so it is much less to deal with than an IVF cycle. Because of my age (36) I feel like we need to move on with treatment but if I were younger I would prefer to just give it longer. If I'm honest, I am also a bit worried about what will happen if IVF fails as it seems like our last resort.

I did have private immunology tests in addition to the usual NHS tests and they showed a high level of NK cells. They have been treated with steroids for the last 4 cycles though, and I am still not pregnant, so they cannot be the only problem. Which I guess takes me back to being unexplained after I finally thought I had found the problem.

Hi Blondebaby yes in the same boat re unexplained so far - its been 4.5 years for us. What tests have you had so far or treatment? DH has passed all of his as 'normal', my bloods, a hycosy and lap and dye have all been normal. We've done 2 rounds of ivf so far, 1 fresh and 1 frozen transfer. Produced 6 good embryos that went to day 5 blastocyst stage. The good thing about ivf is that it crosses even more possible problems off the list .... and still no closer to an answer of what's wrong. So frustrating. Am currently looking into immune tests. Got my GP to do level 1s and going private to ask for NK cells levels tests (am still a bit confused about these). I'm the same in that i never dreamed this would be our scenario, had no prior warning whatsoever. I have to say though that ivf really wasn't as bad as i thought it would be physically. Felt nowhere near as bad as clomid for me. Hate the thought of it. This last time it was nearly successful and had a few days of thinking it might have worked and i couldn't have cared less how i was pg if i was if that makes sense.

On my consultants records we are unexplained. But I have a fibroid that is partially blocking my cervix so I beg to differ. But he categorically says that sperm are tiny and that isn't the reason. Dh also has 3-7% morphology so far bit no one seems bothered about that. When I found out about the fibroid I was a bit shocked but glad as I thought I had a reason that could be fixed. The registrar said that was the root of the problem and once it was out I'd most likely conceive. So to be told no, it wasn't that came as rather a blow. I never thought I'd want something to be wrong, but I kind of do, as then it can be worked with? So I share the frustration. And, should they ever be able to remove my rather complicated fibroid and I conceive after that, I will a,ways think my consultant was rather arrogant.

Hello all, I feel the same. TTC for 3 years and no reason we shouldn't have been successful.. Ther term Teflon womb comes to mind..
Clomid didn't work so I'm about to start my first round of ivf. Saying you're going down a road you never dreamt you'd be going down is exactly how I feel. I feel like it 'shouldn't' be happening to me. It's very hard to come to terms with but at least we are all in the same boat and can offload here!

Doesn't it just shake your confidence in doctors - before this i would have believed a doctor utterly. Now i just think they are pi**ing in the wind a lot of the time and the only person you can really trust to be in charge is yourself

Cat I completely understand the sentiment that it shouldn't be happening to me. There are eggs. There are sperm. There is a clear path from one to the other (no tubal problems). Why can't they get together and make me a baby?

thankyou for all your replies..i agree we are all in the same boat and its great to off load on here but it just makes me hate doctors too On last month of clomid now and still YES still waiting for hospital appointment to get on list for I.V.f. looks like i'll have to ring for a second time..arghhh!!! just found out my sil is trying for a baby...no doubt we'll have some news soon and i'll be Soooo jealous :( wish all you ladies lots of luck..we derserve it to happen!!

It's really really hard when people close to you get pg, I haven't quite worked out how to deal with it yet bar turning into a hermit and never see anyone! Any tips anyone?