Help me not get as obsessed ttc2 as I did ttc1

[yellowflowers]

obv the answer is don't encourage me by responding to this thread... but please do.

dd took 2 and a half years, hundreds of posts on here under this name and others and hours a day spent reading about fertility. She was conceived after two and a half years of dtd every other day between days 10-24 and lots of tears and tests and a month before we started clomid and iui.

This time, now I know we can get pregnant and have a baby and whatever happens we are blessed with one, I should manage not to get obsessed right?Except it is cycle one ttc and 9dpo and I am, um, a teensy bit obsessed already. Help....

Not sure what advice to give except to say good luck and that I know of several people who really struggled ttc with their first, often taking 2-3 years but fell very quickly with their second. I too am a little obsesses as know we're on a time limit due to medical reasons but worse, is not knowing if/when the time limit will run out exactly. I think I'm going to test on Friday (due Sunday/ Monday) as think those few days wait beforehand will be the worst, at least if I'm not I can get on with ttc cycle 2. : )

oh yellow i am 2 years in ttc #1 and I am like how you were. You don't want to come back to this teary, obsessive world of ttc. You have to remember you got pregnant - you have a dd as proof and it will happen again.

and for what it's worth, your post has actually made me feel slightly cheery that people can get pregnant naturally after such a long time trying.

Best of luck!

joycep- my friend was just under three years andafter an unplanned pregnancy but then a mc. She then had her dd and tried again for 2ndsoon after, assuming it would take a while again. Fits month- boom! Pregnant! She's now three months gone.x

wiggy - that's a lovely upbeat story , thank you!

joycep it's all consuming isn't it. I have pcos and am overweight but ovulated every month and all tests fine so it was a case of unexplained infertility. Now I'm an athiest and all that but now we have out little girl I feel she is the child we were meant to have - had it happened at any other month (minute, second) then we wouldn't have her, but another child, who I am sure we would have also loved but still, it is my daughter that I want. I had the clomid at home and was waiting for my period so I could start taking it at day 3. Unbelievable! DH thought I was mistaken with the pg test because I just wanted it so much. But it was true. I still can't believe it and dd is over a year. good luck...

yellowflowers similar here too. DD is everything I ever wished for and I don't want to miss out on anything with her while hoping to be lucky for a second time. TTC was a tough time and even though I now know it is possible naturally I can't help but worry I will end up obsessed/ miserable/ not appreciating what I already have.
You notice no advice - will watch for more wiggy type successes and fingers crossed for you!