Lost my mojo. How do I get it back?

[Maghribia]

Recently I have really lost the urge to have sex, obviously I know I have to do it because of ttc but I am finding it a real chore.

It's only recently I have started to feel this way. I'm not sure if it's just all the tests and tablets I've had recently. The actual sex drive seems to have disappeared, where before it was still hanging around somewhere.

Has anyone else been through this and managed to get it back? The other day I told dp I really wasn't in the mood and although there wasn't a big argument or anything he did make some comment about me trying to "control" him by withholding sex and how his beautiful slim ex who never wore any makeup - his words not mine - never said no to sex. Which is absolute rubbish btw as I can count on one hand the amount of times I've said no and all for perfectly good reasons, not out of any desire to control anyone. I'm obv never going to get pg if I don't have sex, so any tips on how to get things going again?

Whoa, what he said to you, about his ex never saying no, that's not ok. Maybe it was a heat of the moment comment? Hope you're ok. Sex drives varies wildly from persn to person and sometimes day to day! That's perfectly normal.

My dp would get a sex for sayingthat the cheeky thing.no wonder you don't fancy it if that how he reacts.great for your self esteem .hope your ok. Xx

It sounds like there's deeper issues than just a lack of sex drive due to ttc? Based on that comment your 'dp' sounds rather manipulative? Is that an ongoing problem?
When I opened this thread, I was going to chip in as a long term ttc-er two years that it does get tough. Some tips is include were going for walks to talk things through, giving each other massages (skin to skin contact is sensuous but relaxing) and having proper 'dates' like going out for dinner, the cinema etc. But is it really ttc that's the problem?

He sounds like a twat. Are you sure you want to breed with this person?

What hurtful comments! She can't be that wonderful otherwise why is she an ex and why is he ttc with you? Not excusing his comments but perhaps he too is feeling the pressure of ttc and was snapping- I'd like to think this was the case other than the alternative (which is that he is just a giant a-hole).

Anyway, I find that massage, unexpected times/ locations and (if I'm being honest) sometimes imagining other people/ scenarios helps me. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with my fella, it's just that sometimes the thrill of imaging someone else is exciting.