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Shocking news... need advice please

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Wiggy29 · 11/03/2012 07:35

Since my first smear eight years ago I've always had problems with mild abnormalities. I found out the other day (at what I thought was a routine colcoscopy) that if I want any more children (I have one), I need to have them now. I've been told that a lagre part of my cervix needs to be removed asap, making it very difficult to conceive and virtually impossible to carry a baby full term (to the point where it was be a serious risk to the baby).

We're totally shell shocked. I'm waiting for results which will come in about three weeks to decide if I need to have this done immediately (I'm hoping not and the doctor thought this was less likely), but he said regardless, I need to have any more children I want asap as I need to have the treatment as soon possible. He said this would mean I need to have any children we want in the next two years.

We do want more children and, assuming that the results allow, we will start trying straight away. I'm aware there is a ticking clock though. I've come off the pill and I'm waiting until I have the results but if they allow, we'll be trying straight away. As I said, we have one child (aged seven) but he was a 'happy surprise' so I'm a bit clueless!

MY QUESTIONS:
Are there any good links/ tips for quickest ways to conceive?
Should I start taking any supplements?
Is it damaging to have two babies very close together?

Basically, if we want more then one child (which we think we would), we would have to have one and then almost immediately begin trying for another- that's assuming we fall quickly with the first and have time to).

Any advice would be really gratefully received, my head is all over the place at the moment. Thanks.

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Teaandcakeplease · 11/03/2012 08:19

Oh Wiggy, I saw your post and didn't want to just leave it. Do start taking Folic Acid and eating well, lots of vegetables etc. Get plenty of exercise and look after yourself if you are going to try and conceive Smile

My two children are 17 months apart. So DD was 8 months when I conceived again. I would say I live in glorious chaos Grin But I wouldn't have it any other way Smile I wouldn't say it is damaging no. In fact if they're less than a year apart, so I've heard, there is less chance of sibling rivalry as they do not remember being without the other. But do not quote me on that.

I can imagine how confused/ shocked you must feel. Keep posting and hopefully others will be along soon to help.

Wiggy29 · 11/03/2012 08:29

Thank you! I read on a different post that your body needs a year to 'recover' in between but I don't think I'll have that luxury.x

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minceorotherwise · 11/03/2012 08:31

I think the only thing that might hinder you starting immediately after would be breast feeding.

RobinSparkles · 11/03/2012 08:39

I'm so sorry, what a shock for you!

I guess it would be recommended to leave a year to recover but there are plenty of people who don't with no problems. I have a friend who has just 10 and a half months between hers and all is fine!

SaraBellumHertz · 11/03/2012 08:42

Really don't worry about time between babies. millions of woman have their babies close together with no adverse effects, and whilst BF Grin

I am sorry that you are going through this.

AThingInYourLife · 11/03/2012 08:49

So sorry to hear this :(

What shocking news for you to deal with.

As for two babies - I think trying to have two in the next two years is a big ask and will put way too much pressure on what is going to be stressful enough TTC.

It might be better to be realistic that you are more likely to have one more and then if time/circumstances allow you can go for a bonus 3rd baby.

Again, sympathies and very, very best wishes :)

Wiggy29 · 11/03/2012 08:58

Thank you all. I would plan on breast feeding, with my son it was for ten months. I guess we'll just have to see what happens and how long it takes (if we're lucky enough and it happens) first time round.x

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NotMostPeople · 11/03/2012 09:04

I had two years between my first two and eleven months between the second two so dd2 was only about 10 weeks when ds was conceived. I was 35 when I had ds and haven't had any problems from having had two pregnancies so quickly. I did bf dd2 while pg with ds but have to admit I didn't last too long ie four months.

Fingers crossed for you.

Archemedes · 11/03/2012 09:17

I dont really know what advice to give , but I hope everything goes welll.

like others said many women have babies close together.

Wiggy29 · 11/03/2012 09:29

I'll let you all know when I get the results.I'm going to ring tomorrow to check if they'll give them over the phone as unless they come three weeks to the day we'll be on holiday in the Lakes&I don't want to spend my whole holiday thinking about it.We're going to get some folic acid today&hope for a positive result.x

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The5thFishy · 11/03/2012 09:32

are there health risks if you don't have it removed ASAP?

Wiggy29 · 11/03/2012 10:05

Not as such,the changes have been mild for 8 years,they. Went away once in that time&I had a normal smear but nearly alwYs been mild. Consultant that said because it has been persistent (even though not getting worse) they want to remove it. As long as changes are still classified as mild,he said I'd be be ok to leave it a couple of years to complete my family (if I had already done this they would do it straight away).basically,he said as long as it's mild I will be closely monitored but should be okay for another couple of years.x

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Wiggy29 · 11/03/2012 10:06

Excuse typos,I'm replying on my phone.x

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The5thFishy · 11/03/2012 10:18

In your situation I'd have another and call it a day tbh. I wanted 3 but decided I had a responsibility to my existing children not to after a life threatening 2nd pregnancy.

Wiggy29 · 11/03/2012 17:28

I guess it's all hard to guess at as I don't know for sure when I will conceive (assuming results come back okay) or how I'd feel physically/ emotionally after one child. At this point I'm just hoping for good results and the chance to have another child. Anything after that would be a bonus.x

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Wiggy29 · 15/03/2012 16:47

Just to update,I got my results. Changes are moderate,I was really upset at first but have had a long chat and been told that it's fine to try for a child,that even if it was left for about ten years,only 5% of changes become cancerous. So, we've been given all clear to try for a baby& will be checked every three months for further changes.I am a very happy lady tonight!xxx

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Teaandcakeplease · 15/03/2012 16:51

Wonderful news, so happy for you Smile

WonderlandAlice · 15/03/2012 20:33

Hi Wiggy :) really glad you're able to try, your story really touched me. Best of luck ttc your second :) x

homeaway · 16/03/2012 17:20

Hi, I wanted to say what good news ! If you want to try and conceive quickly I would start taking a preconception vitamin which will give you all the right vitamins with the right doses. Have you considered a clearblue fertility monitor ? They are quite expensive but they take the guess work out of looking at opks to see if they are posiive or not. HTH and good luck .

Stangirl · 17/03/2012 14:48

Good news OP and good luck with everything.

For the record there is 17months between my 2 - I was in my 40s and had a c-section with both. No problems with the close together pregnancies.

seven77 · 17/03/2012 22:52

My phone battery is about to run out so no time to link but google the Deanna plan and good luck!

Wiggy29 · 25/03/2012 16:16

Thanks again all for support. Just read the material above about Deanna's plan- does anybody have any feedback on it? At the moment we've just been dtd every other day except the last 3 (plus today) where it's once a day as (according to ovulation calender on here) that's my most fertile point. That said, I'm not sure how accurate that is as just came off period so not had a 'true' cycle yet. Just found out my brother and his partner are pregnant (after only a month of trying) which is wonderful as their son died last year when he was only a few hours old. Very pleased for them.

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Wiggy29 · 18/06/2012 21:39

As an update, I found out I'm pregnant yesterday- ecstatic!

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Memoo · 18/06/2012 21:43

Ahh that's fab news! Congratulations.

How old is your dc1?

TheOldestCat · 18/06/2012 21:44

Oh wow, what wonderful news, Wiggy! Congratulations.

I hope all is going well for your brother and his partner; so sorry for the loss of their son.

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