Anyone else get pregnant v quickly the first time and then took ages to conceive no 2?

[PrincessPrecious]

I got pregnant in 1st month of trying with my DD. Now she is 11 months old today and I am still not pregnant with no2 (we started having sex again when she was 3 months old so that is 8 months trying). My DH has been working away all week and only coming home on weekends which means we only have sex about once or twice a week. However he is looking for a new job so hopefully this situation will change soon. Also I know nothing about ovulation kits and how to TTC as it just happened so quickly the last time I never worried about it. I am 35 years old. Also even though I am not breastfeeding my periods have been a bit irregular since having DD last April. My attitude is I would love another child and would try all natural methods to conceive one, however if it happens it happens and if it doesn't I wouldn't ever have fertility treatment, just leave it up to nature.

Any advice from experienced TTCers very welcome.

Got pregnant v quickly with ds1 and ds2 (just stopped using contraception and bam) - have been off contraception for 8 months now and no sign of dc3 happening. I think fertility wanes in your thirties (I'm 35 too) with a small peak before you hit the menopause so charting ovulation and shagging at the most fertile times of the year may help. HAve also cut back on the booze and started watching my weight - I got an ovulation monitor but then fell down the stairs, buggered my knee and have been told by consultant that pregnancy would seriously hamper my knee recovery so no baby till its all better - which will be at least another 6 months...

Similar ish boat to you myself..

Myself and DH got accidently pregnant with #1 (we only slipped up once whilst drunk) and we've now been trying for over a year for #2. I'm now going to the hospital etc for blood tests next week and a gyno appointment.

If you are worried then go and see your doctor, he/she will talk you though the options and sometimes must taking the pressure off you and confirming everything is ok will do the trick.

yes, 1st month with ds and 19 months with dc2 (due end of june). Nothing wrong with me or dp, all blood tests and SA came back good, got referred for fertility testing (we wouldn't have be eligible for ivf or anything like that cos of ds but are eligible for tests to see if anything was wrong). Had HSG and pelvic ultrasound and pg the following month. I know of a fair few people this has happened to on here as well (including one lady on my thread who gave birth to her dc2 last night).
I suggest you learn about ovulation and your cycle to pinpoint the best times for sex, and don't think a referral will be all about ivf, its actually all about getting you pg with ivf really being that very last thing they will suggest. There are a lot of very helpful people on here, I hope it happens for you soon. 8n months is not that long, esp if you only shag once or twice a week!

Thanks everyone. Ninja you are right. Much more likely to ger preg after July when DH will actually be home most nights and not just at weekends!!Also will start learning about my cycle and maybe get an ovulation predictor kit.

Is your cycle fairly regular? I never temped or charted although a lot of ladies do, but I did buy some cheap ovulation pee sticks and would use them from day 9 or so till I got a line. They don't seem to work for everyone but since they are cheap it might be worth a try?
You are only fertile for a relatively short period each month so it wouldn't surprise me if you've missed it quite a few of the months you've been trying simply because your dh hasn't been there! If you get no joy after 6 months of 'proper' trying (I can't think of a better way to phrase that, sorry) then go to your gp and request day 3 and day 21 blood tests for yourself and sperm assessment for your dh. There's loads of info here on studying your cycles so any questions and I'm sure they'll be people there to answer it. Good luck!

Hi Princess

Yes - it was pretty instant with DS (and I was 37 at the time). He has just turned 2 and I'm still not pg but I am quite old now and we have also discovered that DP has a low sperm count (so perhaps DS was a bit of a miracle baby after all).

I would say that for some people it may take a good 12 months after birth to get back to normal ovulatory cycles again, so you may not have been TTC from as early as you think IYKWIM?

Get to know your cycle well, try to have sex around ovulation and be kind to yourself - then if no luck get thee off to a GP to have everything checked out and take your OH!

Good luck.

xxx

Ninja - yes used to have a fairly regular cycle but since DD was born it has been very irregular. Went to GP who said this was fairly normal within a year of having a baby. So I think you could be right beangrower - things may not have got back to normal ovulationwise. My Mum had me at age 41 so you are definitely not too old!!!

I've heard this is quite common. Certainly I could count at least 10 couples / friends who I know this has happened to, including ourselves. Keep trying, you will get there in the end and meanwhile can use these boards to help with advice and tips.

Thanks Mos. Yes am sure it will happen eventually! Also I shouldn't complain because many people take a long time to conceive their first child and we were so lucky she came along immediately. These discussion boards are helpful though - I know about the ovulation predictor thingys now so maybe will try those.

Thanks Princess - it's always empowering to hear of 40+ mums. I'm just having to be patient for my DC2 and sometimes I feel like it will never happen but there's no point being bleak. Stay positive and tbh I think your TTCing is really only just beginning - hope that doesn't make you sigh but gives you confidence!

Yes you are right bean, prob only just beginning but sure we will both get there in the end. Wouldn't really mind if it took a while actually as DD is only 11 months. I need to be more patient.

Patience is so difficult when TTC esp during the 2WW! I'm 39 soon to be 40. Conceived DD within 1 week of 'trying' at 36 years old (though was on the brink of turning 37). Couldn't have considered trying for DC2 until she got to about 18 months old for a number of reasons including she was a dreadful sleeper. Have now been trying for over a year and have had a chem PG and M/C. I'm sure that tiredness plays a part in TTC - I know that I'm not as fit as I once was (used to go to the gym 3 or 4 times a week), and certainly don't have 8 hour sleeps anymore!

I've found just knowing there are others in the same boat as me and being able to chat about my frustrations has been really helpful Maybe get involved on one of the TTC threads? Hope you get that lovely line on a PG test soon.