When did your OH start trying too?

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My DH and I have been TTC for a few months (after 2 previous mcs) and I have stopped alcohol, caffeine, healthy diet, pregnancy vitamins etc. when did your OH start changing or looking at what their doing? DH is out with work guys tonight drinking god know how much and I guess I just feel a bit fed up. Am I over reacting?

DH and I have been ttc for 6months now and the only effort he puts in is having sex with me !!!!

It didn't bother me at first but I think if this is not our month I might say to him to make some sort of effort , even if it is just taking a multi vitamin or something .

umm, nearly 2 years!!! I have spent the last 2 years temping, checking cm, eating healthily, making the effort when it is time to swi even if knackered, googling everything there is to know about conception and generally spending every spare minute obsessing about it.

He is now taking vitamins, actively telling me it's time to swi (I've stopped temping this month to try to chill a bit about it) and has finally said that if we don't get pg by may we will go see the docs. :)

Sorry probably not what you wanted to hear.

minieggs - that's such a good question. It's so tough taking all the responsibility isn't it?

My DP would do vits but wouldn't give up drinking - he never drank gallons but he drank every night - two generous glasses of vino. As we have been TTC for over year (our only child, DS, has just turned 2) I suspected that the booze was a problem. In the end I had to get him to have his SA done - which showed low fertility swimmers - and that seemed to shock him into ditching booze and now he's having acupuncture. (But he is 43 so that no doubt has its impact.)

I was worried for ages that our problems were down to me and did everything in the book to sort it out. I really didn't want to nag him but in the end it came down to that and we had an upsetting time for a month or so but now we've sorted it out I feel much more positive and therefore more relaxed about TTC.

If you can talk to him, then try. Tell him that alcohol can reduce your chances of a BFP but 50% - it's true, it's in all the books! It does depend on how much he wants babies though. Mine was happy with one so we were on tricky ground. Then he realised how much it was affecting me and somehow we sorted it out.

Good luck - I really do hope he gets on board and supports you. Perhaps try the angle that you are finding it so hard and what does he think he could do to help..? Fx you get a BFP soon btw.

Hubby takes zinc and he includes healthy food in his diet such as leafy veg and nuts.

However I have the same argument with him about the booze. He drinks too much, 3 times a week. Drives me mad and I do say to him. He says he's trying to cut back!

I feel your pain!

oh same here! DP takes zinc (when he remembers) and has sex with me (so kind of him! )

Other than that he smokes like a chimney and drinks way too much. I simply cannot get him to stop. Its been 6 months now.....

I read so many threads about women cutting out the booze during ttc, but is there really any point if the partners are drinking like fish?