Really REALLY bored with TTC#2 - a rant

[Ahhhtetley]

#1 was an accidental baby, much loved and cared for.. So much so 12 months ago we decided to try for #2 to complete our family.

I don't really know why we wanted another, probably because we adore and enjoy our DD so much. I've always wanted 2 and it somehow, feels right to have the 2. (OK i'm waffling now)..

But, as I said above, it's been over 12 months now. We've used luck, calendars, sticks and for the last 4 months the CBFM and still nothing. We've talked adoption, doctors but so far not done anything apart from SWI.

And tbh I'm utterly fed up... I'm coming to the conclusion that 3 is also a good number and it wouldn't be the end of the world for us if we couldn't have another one. But there's always this nagging in the back of my conciousness and that 'need/want' for another one. I want to be pregnant again, I want to experience the early stages again, have a baby, my DD loves other children so it would be fantastic for her to have a sibling, and it somehow seems 'right' to have 2 DCs.

I get jealous when my friends get pregnant again (I'm also happy for them), and I sometimes feel we're judged, as though there's something wrong with us for not having two (I know this is stupid but it's the way I'm starting to get). We haven't told anyone we're ttc#2 so we're always having the questions around 'when are you having #2' etc etc.

Part of me wants to give up, another part go to the doctors to get checked out, i'm just confused and wanted to rant.

Thanks for listening.

I here you sista, its frustrating. I woukld definitely go and get checked out if I were you, it could be something that is easily solved. good luck.

Hey Tetley I totally feel your pain. We're only 6 months in but already it is pissing me right off. My DS was planned but we were very lucky and conceived on month 2. This time round, nothing. It's totally shit isn't it. I know it's shit when you're trying for DC1, 2 or more but i am definitely finding it very hard that all the people i met when i had DS are now PG with number 2 so i am constantly surrounded by conversations about how fabulous a 2 year age gap is and how hard it is being PG with a toddler and i am so with you on hating the "when are you going to have another?" question.

I actually told a few people we were TTC. I found that helped.

Also agree with farafalla as it's been a year see if doc can help you.

Good Luck

defintiely agree with farfalla about seeing a doc. We fell pg with ds the first month we tried. DC2 took 19 months and a referral for testing (blood tests, ultrasound and hsg). I'm now 21 weeks and got pg straight after hsg even though they said my tubes were clear.
Its a pain going to the docs and chasing a referral but its so worth doing. As has been said, it may be easily fixed, or you may even just need to blast your pipes clean as it were. Good luck, ttc is a very hard journey.