Aibu to have expected a little more sympathy/help from gp? Please slap me if so..

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ttc for 2nd child. About 20 months in, have used all ovulation sticks and dating. I'm 37 with a bicornate uterus, last baby was breach so had c section. Periods normal but vary significantly in flow. Recently seem to have got very spotty with monster pmt.

So went to gp and she said since I had one child and normal periods, she wouldn't do anything at this point. I was a bit shellshocked as she was very dismissive, so I didnt push her. I don't know whether to go back or go to another doctor, or just keep on going, but for how long?

I would ask for another doctor. You've been trying for well over a year so you should be referred

Agree with jam and good luck, I was ttc for 16 months with ds3 and my friend was just over 2 years with her dd3 so it does sometimes just take longer

I had drinks with GP friends of friends last night - they said that any referral they make for infertility investigations is getting refused if they haven't been trying for 2 years. Their hands are tied. Don't know if that's the case in your area - apparently it's a pilot for them, part of the cuts.

I think at 35+, different guidelines apply, or they certainly used to. It used to be one year of trying for under-35s and 6 months for anyone over 35 before you could be referred for further tests. If I were you, I would go back and ask for blood tests - ask to see a different doctor. Blood tests are not expensive to carry out so there is no compelling reason for them not to refer you. Since you would not qualify for expensive IVF or similar on the NHS anyway because you have a child, it seems a bit tight-fisted not to let you at least have the blood tests.

That's the same where I live rilla - generally GPs refer you at 18 months b/c it takes 6-ish months to be seen; in the meantime they do bloods and an HSG.

At 20 months you should be referred, definitely - it's unlikely you'd be seen before 24 months anyway. See a different GP.

This is text taken from the NICE guidelines on fertility:

People who have not conceived after 1 year of regular unprotected sexual intercourse should be offered further clinical investigation including semen analysis and/or assessment of ovulation.
^Where there is a history of predisposing factors (such as amenorrhoea, oligomenorrhoea, pelvic inflammatory disease or undescended testes), or where a woman is aged 35 years or over, earlier investigation should
be offered.^

Oh - and don't let them fob you off saying that because you have one DC there's obviously no problem - problems develop over time. And you will still be entitled to blood tests, HSGs, medication and the like - it's only IVF etc that is restricted when you already have kids.