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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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RefusingToGiveUp · 08/02/2012 05:50

Hellooo! Don't have a clue what all the abbreviations mean? Don't want any soppy 'baby dust' nonsense? Just want a normal conversation? Well me too, You're in the right place! ;-)

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RefusingToGiveUp · 08/02/2012 06:05

We've been trying to get pregnant for about 16 months now. It's just not happening. Been to a doctor twice in the last year but they aren't exactly helpful. Started looking it up online a lot in the last few months, but just got so fed up of all the soppy comments and the abbreviations lol! :)

It's got to the point where it's just sooo hard to try. Despite what people say about keeping the sex fun, it can't be just me that's sick of it, surely!?
I have pcos, and can't remember the last time I had a regular period, I can't figure out how to tell when i'm going to ovulate because the gap between periods varies so much. I honestly have no clue so the sex is a daily thing for 2/3 weeks at a time. I'm 21, he's 25, we should have a fiery sex life! instead it's a choice of 2 positions, 2/3 min rush in the morning and about 5mins in the night. It used to last for ages, but i think the stress of it all is affecting him. I know it's affecting me (I cry right through it and just feel so useless) which is stupid cos not relaxing probably isn't going to help.

I'm so sick of crying over everything baby related, and I mean everything...
SMA adverts, friends announcing they're pregnant, evil sister in law announcing she's decided to try then being pregnant after a month (I am a huge bitch by the way, she had a miscarriage after a couple of weeks and I really didn't feel sorry for her) I even cried at sex and the city, friends, bones... basically anywhere there's a blue line or a bump Blush

I just want to have a normal conversation about it all. There must be someone out there??

xxx

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HeyMicky · 08/02/2012 06:14

Have you peed on a stick? We tried for 5 months using phone app to track, turns out I was ovulating on day 12, first month I used an ovulation kit I got pregnant cos I was having sex at the right time. I know you said your cycle is irregular - buy a stock of cheap ones online and start tracking.

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RefusingToGiveUp · 08/02/2012 06:17

Are the cheap ones actually any good then? :) The only ones I've ever seen are the 'ClearBlue' and they'd cost a small fortune! lol

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slovenlydotcom · 08/02/2012 06:20

I'm sorry. you lost me when you didn't feel sorry for a woman who lost her baby.

Tigresswoods · 08/02/2012 06:24

Have the drs you've seen mentioned Clomid? I have PCO and it helped me to conceive.

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RefusingToGiveUp · 08/02/2012 06:30

I couldn't stand the way she shrugged it off as; 'Doesn't really matter, we'll just do it again next month'
She's one of those people who just gets everything she wants, the second she wants it. I'm not saying I felt happy or anything, I just didn't feel anything for her...
This may be down to the fact we can't stand each other, but I can't help thinking it's probably a bit of jealously on my part too.
I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but the way she reacted just made it seem like it was no big deal 'cos it's easy to do again. And before you get too judgemental, this is the same woman that sat across the table from me 2 weeks after my own miscarriage last year and announced to my in-laws, "we'll I guess we'd better give you a grandchild soon, cos you won't be getting one from anywhere else"
:-/

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RefusingToGiveUp · 08/02/2012 06:31

They haven't mentioned trying any medication yet. Apparently just sticking to vitamin pills and changing diets should be the first step.
What is clomid? :)

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dontcarehow · 08/02/2012 08:51

sister in law sounds like a bitch mate, don't blame you for not feeling anything. Though you'de probably feel different if she was a bit further along when it happened. Anyway, I've learned to just ignore what other people say, some people really don't understand how hard it is when you're trying for so long. I remember having a conversation with our friends who had a miscarriage quite far along, and I cringe at some of the things I said back then. I remember telling them our "plans" for having babies and how we'd have one in another year when we've moved house etc. as if it would all be so easy. I bet they were sitting there thinking I was a total heartless moron.

Tigresswoods · 08/02/2012 12:52

Clomid can help ovulation. Lots of people with PCO(S) use it to fall pregnant. Get thee to google.

PopcornMouse · 08/02/2012 13:23

The cheap ov sticks from ebay/amazon work just fine - you can 30 for a fiver.

There are few medications you can take with PCOS I think - have a look on the conception board for the PCOS threads and ask a few questions, and go back to your GP armed with questions and info.

You really should be referred for fertility investigations after 12 months (18 at the latest); go back to your GP and push for a referral, be insistant and stress how much it's affecting your relationship and your mental wellbeing.

Good luck.

PopcornMouse · 08/02/2012 13:24

It must be typo day, sorry - there are a few medications... Blush

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