"Have sex every 2nd day" - is this a myth?

[Apteryx]

I'm TTC at the moment, and got it in my head from somewhere that you are supposed to do the wild thing every second day during your fertile period for the best chances of conception. I've been looking at a few sites online, but haven't found anything to confirm or deny this idea - does anyone know if this is true or not?
BTW it goes against my instincts - which is to use every available opportunity!

I would use every opportunity too! I think we got down to it every day, dh would say 'just to make sure..!'

Worked for us !

This is not based on any research or facts, just my own experience. Have conceived 1st,1st and 2nd times with my three and personally found that doing it every day covers all bases even though I know that it isn't strictly necessary, as think sperm can live for 3 days IIRC??

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I think dh/dp 'contribution' to the process is supposed to have a lifespan of about 48hours. Therefore every other day would give a strong chance of all the necessary ingredients being in place whenever you ovulate. I think that is the theory behind the idea.

yep, thats what I heard too.

Worked for me!!!!

We used every opportunity when we concieved both of our kids.

I've definitely read this somewhere too and it's what we're going to be doing once my af ends . Not sure if I remember correctly, but I thought it was to give the little fellas 48 hours to 'regroup' - need to have a decent number of them for the long haul...(I'll stop right there!)

I was told to have "lots and lots" by my GP. The regrouping sounds like a good theory though!

Worked for us from around cd10 to cd 21 to "make the most of your fertility" said DH.

Thanks guys, sounds like either way will work! I'm going with the daily shagfest theory...

We tried every second day the first month of TTC, then the second month I said "every day!!" which worked out fine ds showed up nine months later.

every 48 hours is optimal for sperm

around ovulation (judged by charting or OPKs)

Depends on you and your DH - for example, if his sperm count is a bit iffy then an every-24-hours or an every-48-hours shagfest can leave him a bit depleted by the time you actually hit your peak of fertility.

For us, in a year of trying we had ten months of every-other-day-during-fertile-period and two months of DH-out-of-town-so-nothing-for-a-couple-of-weeks-before-actual-day-of-ovulation. Guess which two months we got pg (one m/c, one DS)?

I'd be inclined to start off with the mega-shagfest but consider other options if it doesn't work out...

A quick postscript on this matter - I'm now pregnant, so the "lots and lots" approach has worked for me!

Everyday is too physically tiring IMO. Dh will gladly do it every day but I think even by the fifth consecutive day he is pretty knackered, with both of us holding day jobs. Equipment can also wear out . Probably showing our age. But TTC-ing for second child definitely follows a , gentler pace. Every other day during 10 day fertile period is more than sufficient, if you can manage that .

As has een said before, if there are any issues with DH's sperm them having sex every day will not leave his body enough time to recover, and degrade his sperm quality.

The general advice to anyone TingTC is to have sex every 2-3 days throughout your cycle. If there are no issues on either side, that hould generally work.

If you want to be more focussed, you can follow the "egg meet sperm" plan. This should guarantee that egg and sperm come into contact (of course, nothing can guarantee pregnancy):

1. Starting on CD8, BD every other day, and use an OPK every day.
2. When you get your first +ve OPK, BD that day, and the two following days.
3. Take a day's rest, then BD again.

Congratulations on your BFP Apteryx, I hope this thread is useful to any others with the same questions

Hugs,
Artoo.