Oh God, that feeling is back - I want a baby!

[MISSGREEDY]

Changed name as dh knows my name on here, he always susses me out but this he does not know.

I want another baby, I know he would run to the hills if he knew.

It's been slowly growing over the last month and hit me bang in the face when I almost cried holding a strangers baby!!! Woman must have thought I was ver weird. My eyes glazed over and I had to make my excuses.

Everytime I watch something on tv or see babies, I get a lump in my throat and feel that pull in my stomach.

Thing is I have three beautiful children so I know I am just being very greedy!!!

The last time this happened it was two years of driving myself in sane before I pushed and pushed dh until he agreed for a third. Our lovely dd gave us two years of no sleep and dh swore never ever ever EVER again. So I know the pain is only too fresh in his mind.

Plus it would be madness right? Four children? What kind of car do you use for four children and a pram and shopping or even suitcases or tents for holiday? A mini bus?

Please help me see sense, tell me this feeling will subside? Am I alone or are there many of you who have children, enough children but still want more.

Honestly I really have a sad feeling inside and I just hope it does not last.

Poor love. I have one, and although she has never slept for more than 90 minutes at a time (in 13 months!) and is hard hard yakka (but gorgeous! :)), I've yearned for another since she was about five weeks old. Newborns are just- sigh. I've been watching the videos and looking at her piccies from her earliest weeks recently. The longing is all-consuming.

No advice, just sympathy.

You know what this is don't you. It is a natural response to the warmer temperatures we are getting. Our bodies think it is spring!
Seriously though. I'm with you. Except I've been like this for nearly ten years! My youngest is 12 now, and I'm literally desperate! I have considered all sorts of ways of tricking DP, but I just can't do it.
His compromise??... The withdrawal method. He doesn't want to use condoms, and I can't/wont use hormonal contraceptives, and he will cope with the consequences, if they occur, but he won't TTC! twat

I feel like this about babies. I have to remind myself why I don't want more children. I think nature's cycle gets stronger as you get older and time starts to run out.

I have 4 kids ,though and it is sometimes chaos, but never madness :). If the right car is all holding you back, go for it!

Draw up your pros and cons, now and for the next umpteen years as you finance nurture them through childhood, adolescence and young adulthood.

I have a sad feeling too. I have two children. I love them both with all my heart, but I know we are supposed to be a family of 5 not 4. My husband disagrees ... for many valid reasons. One of our children is SN, with what could potentially be quite severe but so far has been okay. My DH has MH issues so it really does make sense not to have more, plus my age. But, aaagggghhh! ... just one more! We are financially stable and have great family support. It would make me feel like our family whole.

I created a thread about this last night. It's not another baby I want am happy with my one... I just want to go through it all again. Midwife appointments, scans, labour, brand new baby

Ah thanks Ladies. We did the "do" last night, in fact the third time this week. He asked if it was safe and I stayed quiet. But we always use the withdrawl method anyway. It's terrible but I start thinking, I had a very light period last month, today is 16 days past the start of my period and I've had period cramps all week. My first pregnancy I had a a light period and so did not find out I was pregnant until 8 weeks. I am incredibly moody too but that might just be me ;).
It would be mad if I was pregnant already, that would put a stop to all this!
Wishful thinking!

I'm the same. DD is 18 mo, and DP is resolute that he doesn't want another. He found fatherhood much less enjoyable than he had expected until DD was about 10 months, and he can't face going back there. Every time she tantrums or wakes in the night I think it just reinforces this.

Sometimes when things are difficult (DD is pretty high needs so it's difficult most days!) I wonder whether we'd cope with two anyway. It's all so confusing.

Lots of things went wrong for us, bad birth damage for me, reflux, SCBU, PND, tongue-tie meaning BF was impossible. I'm yearning to be pregnant again and have a second chance to get it 'right', IYSWIM.

Sorry OP, no help at all!

MissHonkover, it's not about getting it right. You should not feel that way, like you did it wrong or something. My first was an angel baby who slept so well from early on. I thought I was a natural (God, I must have done people's heads in). When our second came I done everything the same but none of it worked and she was tricky for while. She also had reflux and was a very cranky and unsettled baby. They are just all so different and have different needs. We can only do our best and we all get through it in the end ;). One thing you can tell him is it will always be different. I dont know many people who had the same experience with different children. Even the know it alls will have their boat rocked at some point and people who had it hard maybe pleasantly surprised. The fact you had PND will mean people around you and yourself will be aware of the signs and if it arises then you can get help early. Big hugs to you x

Thanks, Greedy. I don't think I blame myself, but, like lots of people with difficult babies I wonder whether the stress levels in the house exacerbated things.

As DP was such a grumpy nightmare for much of DD's early life, I don't think pushing him into having another would be the right thing to do, if our relationship fell apart I'd feel to blame.

Keep us posted on your period situation!