Today was a bit of a shocker [sad]

[Fay30]

Hi all,

Following on from my recent attemts at TTC.
On Friday just gone, DH and I went to the hospital to have his sperm checked, as he had undergone a reversal some time ago.
When we returned a short while later to collect his results, we had time with a specialist.
The specialist explained our situation, in so much that DH did not have a huge ammount of A+ sperm.
It was then suggested that I come back on Monday (today) and also I should have a check up.
My eager waiting in the waiting room lasted all of 5 minutes, when I was asked to go to the toilet for a wee, then to come into the examination room with DH.
2 minutes later we were both in the examination room, and then I was asked to go behind the dividing curtain, to see the ultasound specialist.
Not the most comfortable thing to have to do, but it was for a cause, so I couldn't really complain.
The 10 minutes prodding and pushing, twisting and turning this condom covered "thing" inside me, and it was over.
The results were passed to the specialist, and the specialist sat us both down infront of him, and explained the findings.
It looks like without intervention, I would never be able to conceive.
Firstly we were told my uterus is in the wrong place.
Then we were told, more seriously, that I have a chocolate cysts on my ovaries. , ,
Oh my god, going from bad to worse.

Then he firmly suggested that the way forward is ICSI.
He also said, that the problem with my uterus will get worse, and we should not delay the start of the ICSI treatment, longer than necessary.
He told us that as things are at the moment, we have a fair to good chance of conceive, and rated us as high as 50%.
DH and I will sit down now, and decide when to start the ICSI.

Fay

Hi Fay, I don't know if I have anything at all helpful to add but I really just wanted to say good luck and I wish you really well on the journey. Fingers crossed that you get better news as you go along! x

Hi Fay, sorry to hear what a terrible day you've had. I've been in that position - going from thinking all is probably fine to being told you'll never conceive naturally. It's huge and first thing you need to do is just take a bit of time to get your head round it.

In my case it turned out not to be the right diagnosis. I was at a private clinic whose main thing is IVF/icsi (and they have excellent results) so that was really the only thing they offered me. I was then lucky enough to see an excellent NHS consultant who was quite critical of private clinics who will push you straight to IVF without looking at less invasive options first; so far no joy for me BUT I've got lots of options before we have to consider ivf.

I'm afraid I don't know about your conditions but it's always worth a second opinion. And do as much research as you possibly can so you're armed with everything lots of info. But most of all, take some time to let this soak in. I'm guessing from your name you're only 30 which is great - you've got time on your side and maybe to consider other options before ICSI.

Be kind to yourself, it's a huge shock and you need time to get your head around it.

Best of luck x

Fay,

It sounds like a bloody awful day, so sorry!!
Hope that your baby journey, which although taking you down a different path, is succesful.

Good luck with it all.xx

Thanks emeraldgirl1, highlove, and freckly12 for all your wonderful words of support.
I never thought that I might have the problem.

We always assumed it was my husbands low sperm count, but it seems that, even with his relativly low sperm count, after so long of baby dancing, we should have had a pregnancy by now.
It's not been for the want of trying, thats for sure.
Any way, we both went back to the hospital today, and had another great chat with the fertility specialist.
I must say, he is one of the most friendly and approachable guys I have ever had the fortune to meet.
Apparently, when my scan was done yesterday, the chocolate cyst was measured at 4,2 cm x 3,6cm. Not the largest, but not one that will go away on it's own.
He said he would be very reluctant to do any thing with it until after the birth of a child, as they would be concerned of any damage to the ovary, while they were trying to remove the chocolate cyst.
So, after another visit today, I am feeling more used to the idea.
DH is such a fantastic pillar of support, he has given me reassurance and comfort over and beyond I thought he had in him.
We will return to the specialist on 01 March, to do blood tests, as the first step in ICSI.

Thats all I have for now every one.

Lots of love.

Fay

Am very glad to see that you have now seen a more helpful person this time around and that your DH is being supportive as well.

"Chocolate cysts" I seem to recall are related to endometriosis; such cysts are normally removed surgically (they do not go away of their own accord). You may well want to see a cons gynae with a specialist interest in endometriosis (ask them outright what success rate they have in treating chocolate cysts) in the medium term about the chocolate cyst.

Hi Fay

I can really relate to your experience.

We have been ttc for nearly 2 years. One miscarriage in May 2010. Since then, no luck. Sperm morphology issues were cited as the reason. But sadly on Friday I was diagnosed with a hydrosalpinx on my right tube making it blocked and a likely scarred left tube. To say I was shocked is an understatement and I am really struggling with it all to be honest.

However, I am pleased that you had a more positive experience today with your Dr. The way things are communicated can make the difference betwen coping or not I believe.

I just wanted to share my experience so you know you are not alone with all this.

We have the choice of IVF or surgery to see if any tubal damage can be corrected. Not sure how effective the later would be. I have also read that IVF success is lower for women with hydrosalpinx. This scares me and makes me wonder why my consultant was so positive we have a good chance with it.

It feels like we never get a break from thinking and worrying, ey?

Good luck Fay. Every chance things will work out for you and take care of yourself. xx