Please help me not go on at DP about TTC!

[soexciteddontwanttowait]

We agreed we'd start TTC for DC2 in the new year. But a good friend of DPs just died unexpectedly and his head is all over the place, he's really sad and not in the mood for such joyus things :(

I'm so excited about TTC, but can't talk to DP about it ATM as I don't want to put him under pressure right now. I've said I'm ready when you are, but no pressure, and left it at that, and so far he's not ready, it would seem.

I hoped you lot might be happy to put up with my witterings about TTC instead!

I'm nearly 2 weeks since day 1 of last AF, probably missed it this month, haven't we?

hopeful bump

Hi soexcited I can't really comment much on what you've said, as DP and I are ttc and having trouble. However, thought I'd wish you all the best, and say you've not necessarily missed this month - depends how long your cycles are normally.

If you wanted to do some research into ttc, you could consider doing some research on yourself and your cycles. Either track your temp and CM and log it in a tool like fertility friend, or buy some cheap OPKs from Amazon.

If you do that for a few cycles you should build up an idea of when you ovulate each month, and how regular your cycles are. Then, when your DP is ready, you'll be an expert on your cycle and will hopefully get pg quickly.

Wishing you luck!

Hi Stasi, thanks for the reply :)

Last time I tracked my cycles it was for the opposite reason - contraception - and it was normally 28 days, so now's the time I reckon!

That was years ago though, things might have changed I guess? I enjoyed starting the day with the thermometer actually, just staying in bed and taking a few minutes to think about the day before throwing yourself into it.

I'm sorry to hear you're having trouble, how long has it been? (If that's not a rude question, sorry if it is please feel free to ignore!)

My best friend and her DH had a terrible time TTC, took them years and she had pretty much given up hope but they have a lovely little 2yo DS now

Hi soexcited been about 15 months now, starting on cycle 18 this week. No real problems detected, apart from "mild male factor". We're trying for DC1, and being forced to be very patient.

I hope your DP starts feeling better soon, getting over the death of a friend must be hard - and not very romantic! You should try and give him some time and space, and just mental on here for a while. There's a few threads of people waiting to ttc, perhaps you can find some people to chat to on those?

SoExcited I agree with Stasi I would use this time to get yourself ready. Start keeping a note of your cycles, either using cheap OPK sticks or temping. Maybe start taking conceptions vitamins, reducing caffine and alcohol intake, eating well etc. Then when DH is ready you will already know what you need to know.

Good luck

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