Indecision - how to decide to ttc?

[MysteryCat]

Hi everyone. I'm new on here and just wanted some advice before ttc.

I've just turned 36 (happily married for 7 years, no kids yet) and have never felt broody. I've always been one of those people that said they would never have kids. However, in the past year, I've begun to wonder if I've changed my mind. It could be my biological clock ticking or could be that my closest friend has recently had a baby - but now I'm starting to think that perhaps I would like to start a family.

The problem is that after years of being convinced that I didn't want kids now I'm worried about whether ttc is the right decision. I'm generally a cautious person who doesn't rush into things but I'm aware that at 36, if I do want a family, I need to decide and start trying.

I just wondered if there was anyone out there who wasn't 100% sure about whether ttc was the right thing but went for it anyway? I feel a bit of an idiot being undecided as everyone I know seems to be sure one way or the other.

Go for it!! Jump off the cliff!!

I did theoretically want kids, but I wasn't in the right relationship for ages and never exactly felt 'broody', 'biological clock' or anything.

To be honest, I didn't hang around with many babies at that time - another reason why friends having them can be a bit of a trigger because you actually then have more contact with newborns.

Then when I got to 34, I had got together with my OH, and we just went for it - quite a 'head' rather than 'heart' decision. I utterly adore my baby, and would like another child, but I still wouldn't describe that as a physical desire to be pregnant, I just want my son to have a sibling in a long term sense. So I'll do the same again in quite a logical way - soon as I can once I'm back at work because I'm soon 36 too and would like a good run at conceiving.

I think that what eurochick says about really being clear about wanting a baby now that unfortunately it is taking some time really says it all about how for many of us, it is the threat of not having a baby clarifies wanting one.

I personally think that at 36 it is best if at all possible to make a decision one way or other and get on with it, rather than waiting for a watershed moment. I've got one too many friends who got to that 'I definitely want' place in their very late 30s, and are going through fertility treatment.