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just feeling so crap

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tasmaniandevilchaser · 06/01/2012 20:27

I had a miscarriage in November and we've been ttc since then. I've been having acupuncture (which worked for getting dd into the world) and I've been waiting to ovulate this cycle.

Today it's dawned on me that I have raging PMT, so can expect AF in the next few days. I didn't even notice ovulating, which is very bad news, as with a 'good' cycle, I really know when it's happening (TMI alert - the 'egg white mucus'). I really thought that I'd be more fertile after the miscarriage and carrying on with the acupuncture would sort it all out. Now it seems that it's just not working, even with the acupuncture. I'm just so miserable and worrying about being too old etc etc.

Just posting for a moan really! I know I'm lucky to have DD and I do appreciate her.

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sarlat · 06/01/2012 20:38

Hi Tas

Moan away....somtimes it's the only thing which takes the edge off it. You have my sympathies. I too have had a miscarriage and hoped to be pregnant again quickly - no such luck for us. It is rubbish but hold on to the fact that your body has been pregnant before and is therefore very likely to know how to do it again.

Well done on the acupuncture! All helps. Maybe your body just needs a rest at the moment.

Good luck.

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tasmaniandevilchaser · 06/01/2012 20:42

Thanks sarlat, sorry about your miscarriage, fingers crossed you'll have better luck soon. I was just so positive this cycle, thinking just wait for the ovulation and it might stick this time. Then the realisation that AF is coming instead.... Angry

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Slainte · 06/01/2012 23:01

Sorry for your losses Tas and sarlat.

I too am TTC and had my second miscarriage on 1 Sept at 8.5 weeks which devastated me. The next time we tried I was convinced I would get pregnant immediately mostly because I got preg with DD the month after my first miscarriage.

Tas, same as you, I had my DD with the aid of acupuncture. Also, do you use the CB digital monitor? When I was just using dates for calculating ovulation it turned out that I had always been a few days out.

We're still TTC so fingers crossed for all of us.

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tasmaniandevilchaser · 07/01/2012 09:16

hi Slainte, so sorry for your losses, it is so hard. I started using the CBFM for this last pregnancy that ended in miscarriage. It worked a treat, though sadly it can't make the baby stick! I can't use it again until I think 2 cycles after the miscarriage, so when AF arrives, I'll get it out the cupboard. Thank god I didn't Ebay it when I got pregnant!

I still feel very PMTish today, but at least it's the weekend and DH is about. I can't even think about work on Monday, I was so looking forward to mat leave!

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Slainte · 08/01/2012 10:06

Hi tas hope you're feeling ok today and the weekend wasn't too hard.

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tasmaniandevilchaser · 08/01/2012 10:36

hi Slainte, thanks, I'm feeling ok, not great, but ok. Just a bit sad and grumpy. AF still hasn't arrived, maybe this is just an irregular cycle, I'm pinning some hopes on not having ovulated yet after all. So maybe in with a chance of conceiving this cycle.

Good luck with your TTC.

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Slainte · 12/01/2012 18:47

Hi tas how has your week been? Has AF arrived? I've been cramping all day so think AF will arrive tomorrow, 5 days early Sad

I made the mistake of watching One Born Every Minute for the first time last night, I really cried. I think it was the thoughts of maybe not having that joyous feeling again when they put the baby in your arms. I really hope it's not too late for me, 42 now.

Anyway, must go, starting to bloody cry again.

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tasmaniandevilchaser · 13/01/2012 18:56

Hi, lovely to hear from you! Sorry you're not feeling great either, hope you're better today. You're very brave to start watching 'One Born Every Minute', just the thought of it makes me want to hide under the sofa (which is a very bad idea, it's very dirty under there!)

My week started ok, but by Wed I was on the verge of bursting into tears and running out of work. Sad It's been about 8 weeks since the MMC and although people said you'll have good days and bad days, I really wasn't expecting this level of craziness. I think some of it is the PMT but came on today and still don't feel great. I've not been the greatest Mum to DD [deep shame emoticon], I really need to get myself together, but I haven't felt this bad in about 10 years.

I know the worry about being too old as well, although on paper it doesn't look too bad for me, when my DM was 2 years older than I am now, she had well and truly stopped having any periods. Obviously I'm not broadcasting that to the world, so when people say 'oh, you've got lots of time, it'll happen', I crumble a bit inside Sad

At least with AF arriving, the acupuncturist has a baseline to work from, nothing happening is just an awful limbo. Are you having acupuncture again? Fingers and toes crossed for us both x

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