TTC & Job Hunting

[Sazzel]

I'm hoping for your opinions/thoughts on starting TTC again when job hunting.

I had a MC at 12 weeks back in November. I had not been enjoying my job but stuck it out while TTC which took 11 months. After MC I decided to hand in my notice at my current job. I'm now working out my notice.

Just had my first period since the MC and DH said we should use the CBFM this month even if we decide not to TTC straight away. Well the CBFM is now telling me to go for it but I don't know what the right thing to do is.

Would you hold off TTC until you were settled in a new job? Or is it crazy to delay the one thing you really want for the sake of a job? I just don't know what the right thing is? We could survive financially without the maternity pay we'd just have to give up having fun but going for interviews/starting a job already pregnant is that ok?

No I wouldn't hold out. I'd go for it. You'd still get maternity allowance if you haven't been in a new job long enough to get SMP, and anyway, if you think you can manage without the money then that's even better.

Going for interviews in early pregnancy is simple, just don't tell them until you have signed on the dotted line. It is illegal to discriminate against you purely on the basis of being pregnant. If you are, say, 6 weeks when you go to an interview and then you end up starting at 10 weeks, you can reasonably tell them that you didn't know when you applied for the job.
If you are showing it's a bit trickier of course.

I found, due to the law of sod in action, that once i had given up my job with good maternity pay etc at the time of my last miscarriage, I got pregnant again fairly speedily. I've done a bit of temping whilst pregnant although not much to be honest, and I'll just about qualify for the 39 weeks Maternity Allowance.
If I'd have waited for a new job I could be waiting forever.

It is a tricky one but as it took you 11 months before, I would say you really shouldn't put it on hold.

I have a similar quandry. I have a great job and love the work but my office is struggling at the moment and I wonder if I should jump rather than risk finding myself redundant at some point. The thing is, that at this point in my career, to get taken on in the kind of job I would want, I would need to be developing a new area and really going for it in any new job. Which is not ideal when going through IVF (which we are expecting to start in a few months) or the early stages of pregnancy with tiredness and morning sickness in the mix. And that is leaving aside that you don't usually get enhanced maternity pay in my field until you have been in the role for a couple of years and as I am the main breadwinner, that would not make our financial situation easy! I am giving myself this month to think about it and might start job hunting in a few weeks.

It's tricky but, having been ttc for nearly a year now, I'd never let a month pass by, no matter inconvenient becoming pg that month might be. It might be the month iykwim!

Hi, I would say go for it at the end of the day you can get help with maternity allowance if you needed to but you if you think about it there is never really a good time there is always something to worry about or to complicate thngs. Good luck xx

We're going to be moving city and therefore I'll leave my job at the beginning of August but want to start TTC/stop the contraception. It would make finding a job in new city tricky though. But then it probably won't happen straight away. So confusing! However the clock ticks so we'd better just get on with it and stop waiting for the "perfect time".

I left my v good and well paid (and misery-inducing) job last year and didn't stop ttc. At that point we had been trying so long that I partly didn't think it would work anyway and partly thought that the sod's law nature of such things might mean that this would finally be the shag that worked. Oh, and also my appointment for ovarian drilling had just come round, and it would have been a bit craven to cancel it, or to have had it but not followed it up with sex.

I am currently looking for a job (from a position of still being jobless) and am still ttc, though less energetically than before. I should start clomid in a couple of months, so I think that will be the point at which we really go for it again. Whether or not I have a job.