Ttc for the first time....

[nearlydunne]

Excited and scared but more excited. anyone else just started trying for their first. Any tips or i dunno.... a
dvice. Have you told people you are ttc or is it a big secret? we both feel like we have something big to tell people but don't want to jinx it.

How exciting! I personally wouldn't tell anyone just in case it doesn't go exactly to plan (it takes longer than expected etc). Then you don't have to deal with other peoples annoying comments. It took me about 18 months before I got pg the first time and after trying a few things, not drinking at all, ovulation sticks etc the thing that worked was just being like normal and having sex regularly (at least 3x a week spaced out over the week). Mind you I ovulated not very often and all over the place so you might find it easier (nearly all my friends got pg within a month of trying ) Good luck!

Its very exciting and i come from a uber fertile family. my sis just has to look at sperm and she gets pregnant. so im hoping ill follow in her footsteps.
god i cant imagine being pregnant next month that would be mad (amazing but mad) we literally only decided 2 weeks ago.
im supposed to be planning a wedding but babies is all that is in my mind now :)

It is exciting of course! But unless you want your MIL asking you if you have had your period yet etc etc and well meaning friends asking you for weekly updates on your ttc, perhaps keep it to yourself for now!

Tips:

1. For the first 4 months minimum do not spoil the fun with ovulation tests and charting. Enjoy contraception free sex without the science.

2. Have sex three times a week. If this is a lot for you, try to build it up each month so you are getting in the habit. Obviously it isn't necessary when you are having your period, or when you know you are due a period soon. Keep a record of your period start dates so you get to know how long your cycle is.

3. Expect it to take six months. Do not expect it to happen right away and do not put pressure on yourself to get pregnant next month. If it happens quickly, fantastic. But even with sex 3 times a week you only have a 25% chance each month. If you expect it to take at least 6 months, anything earlier is a bonus.

Thanks Kat
charts ha ha i hadn't even thought of that. i know it wont happen immediately and im glad that it wont i have to get my head round that im actually allowed to try now. i feel like i should be planning but there is nothing to plan for.

All you need to plan for is some nice cozy evenings in and early nights! Have fun!!

Hi, im also a newbie to TTC and so excited!

The past couple of years ive had a personal problem and at times i questioned whether id ever be TTC so my excitement has ended up bubbling over and im finding it so hard not to tell everyone

My DH and i have been talking about TTC to conceive and decided last month that we would start trying but with Xmas do's and get togethers etc we haven't had much time or energy to do much SWI so when AF visited today i wasnt suprised.

A couple of my close friends (one of which has just had a gorgeous little boy this morning at 1am) know we are TTC. Im rubbish at keeping things in and the excitement got a bit to much.

Im so glad i read your advise KatandKit, ive been going a bit mad/obsessed and really didnt want to be like this. I just want to enjoy SWI contraception free without any pressure. Im trying to stay calm for atleast a few months (unless i get a BFP before that) - any tips greatly appreciated!

Whens the wedding nearlydunne? Ive got a few things to keep me busy for the next 5 months so im hoping that will keep me occupied and keep my mind from thinking about babies all the time!

Fingers crossed for you nearlydunne.

83its great to see a newly ttc like myself. we are the same with christmas and visiting people and dp being away we havent tried as much as we like but once new year is over and done with we will try constantly :)

We havent even set a date,we got engaged in september but decided that we would rather spend the money on a baby then a big wedding so probably will just have a quiet wedding in the summer. as long as were married i really dont mind how its done. id do it now in my pjs if i could. (poorly not lazy) maybe a bit lazy

Ooooohh congrats on the engagement.

I hope you are feeling better soon and lets hope there is lots of good news in the new year.

We are ttc our first too - tis very exciting!!

Though (without wanting to put a downer on things at all) just a few points to consider:

• dont expect to get pregnant straight away - I did!! When you're younger you get it drilled into you so much about not having unprotective sex and the risk of pregnancy etc., I just presumed that once you started actively trying for one, it would happen immediately!! How naive was I??!! We have been trying for 7 months now and still nothing....

• I wouldnt tell too many people (if any) either. The only person I've told is my best friend and I know she wont ask me about it or tell anyone else. Enough pressure comes from yourself - you dont need it from anyone else!

• I've actually had 4 miscarriages - all VERY early ones (classed as 'chemical pregnancies') so another warning - even if you get a positive pregnancy test I would try not to get too excited just yet - very difficult I know! Its just I've had 4 seperate positive tests over 4 seperate cycles but all have ended by about week 5-6. Week 12 seems to be the cut off date for being able to think all will be ok and then you can tell the world!!

• On a more positive note, SWI is brilliant!! The 'every other day' theory seems to work a treat!!

Good Luck!!!!

Hello

We are also TTC our first. Came off the pill in September, took a bit of time to get the hang of my cycle and what was going on "in there" but think I have it cracked now. We're not exactly, er, rampant, so the SWI is a good kick up the backside for us! Enjoying it

I haven't told anyone except one friend who lives a long way away, and I know she wouldn't tell anyone. In a way I want to tell the world, but in another way, it is a very private matter.

I bought tons of OPKs and PG tests on ebay, really really cheap. 50 ovulation tests and 30 PG tests for about £10. Would recommend!

Good luck!

HKK xx

Hey 3is so sorry to hear about your mc's i hope your luck improves and keep enjoying the swi.
were just having fun ttc at the moment. xxxx

Another first timer here too. Finished my pill last week, AF has just arrived and we're looking forward to SWI. Not expecting it to happen straight away (13 years on the pill) but like the OP I come from fertile stock (as my mother the 6th of 7 - jokingly calls it) so you never know.

OP, have you started taking folic acid? Also it is a good idea to pop to your GP for a pre-conception test. I had a blood test last Thursday and got the results back today (all clear). They check you for HIV, Syphilis and Hepatitis but also they test whether you have rubella immunity. Most of us will have had the vaccine at school but immunity can wear off or not even take.

We've decided not to tell anyone we're TTC for the reasons the others said. I don't want people asking me personal questions, especially if it takes a long time.

Good luck

Hi everyone, also ttc our first child, like some of the above I was sure it would happen in the few first months, now on cycle 8 losing my faith a little! Glad I didn't tell anyone apart from my best friend, really wouldn't want to people asking questions all the time, think mn is great, always someone here to answer your questions or chat too! Fingers crossed for BFP for us all really soon!! X

Hi smiler i started taking folic acid the day after we decided to ttc. i haven't been to the doctor to be honest i didnt even think of it.
i shouldn't have told who i told as i work with them and don't know them to well but christmas party,3 bottles of wine and the same week we decided to try make for loose lips.

hello hello.

First time ttc. been off the pill since october however only started SWI this month. had my first 2ww and 1st AF visit, although i wasn't expecting to get a BFP first month i was still a little upset.

my DH was great though and distracted me by starting to research a trip to paris for next month... this might get very expensive if every time i start AF he distracts me with things like this!

i hope we all get BFP very soon! x

ok being new to this im struggling with your acronyms.... iv figured out most of them but 2ww i have no clue. feel silly now

2 week wait - the time between ovulation and when you're due on/take a test

ahhh cool no i feel like a bigger tool thats easy to figure out ha ha

Nah, I don't think that one is that obvious. There is a thread listing the most common acronyms somewhere.

im not shy to ask. all this talk of ttc makes me wish dp was here tonight