MMC lead to ERPC, how long until TTC?

[JjandtheBean]

I know its way to soon right now, only had the ERPC monday but having a plan in my head is how I cope.

And I know the only way I can stop hurting is to be pregnant again, so anyone who's been here, advice please.

Hi jj. Really sorry to hear about your MMC/ERPC. Same happened to me in July. I started ttc in earnest again in September. Waited for a period, which came after about 28 days iirc, and then actually found I didn't want to try that cycle - I wanted the pregnancy I'd lost, I think, not another one. But felt ready by Sep and have been trying since. Currently 2wwing. Fingers crossed.

But what I wanted to say is I know it feels like it won't stop hurting until you're pregnant again, but in my experience it does stop hurting anything like as much as it does when its still so recent. Your hormones will still be all over the shop. Be gentle with yourself, allow yourself to grieve, and whatever anyone here says, try when you are ready.

jewels is spot on. I've been there too and I'd say one of the most important things is not to set yourself random "deadlines" for when you expect to be pregnant again. If it doesn't happen as fast as you like then you'll feel like you have failed twice over, and really you have no control over how long it will take.

I tried straight away after my ERPC, once the bleeding had stopped of course. It took 5 weeks to have a period, but I'm not entirely sure I did ovulate that first cycle. For me it was important to get back into it quickly, but that isn't the right answer for everyone.

I want to feel like I'm doing something anything. I bled lightly the day of the erpc, spotting for two days and nothing since, I feel ready.

At the minute I feel so helpless because right now I want a baby so much and I'm doing nothing about it. I feel doing something about it will help.

My mw/doctors haven't been much use, one saying avoid intercourse whilst bleeding, the other saying 4-8wks and another saying when your ready! I don't want to cause any damage!

You won't cause any damage. Once the mc is over you will be fine to have sex. The only reason you are supposed to wait until then is to lower the risk of infection. have you had a negative pregnancy test yet? Once the pregnancy hormone is all gone, your body will start up the fertility cycle again. Although it's utter bollocks having to do a test and actually hope for bfn, it might help you to know you are good to go again.

I wasn't told to test again, I had no idea about that!

It might be too soon to test now. But you could give it a go next week when ten days are up since your erpc. I was told to test after two weeks and call the EPU if it didn't come back negative and then they would monitor in case of retained products. But for some people it takes a few weeks anyway.

Thanks for letting me know that, they didn't tell me any of that!

Also was a bit worried as I'd not bled at all, just the odd spot when I wipe. Since day one. Mw said expect a light period!