Honest opinions on best time to start ttc

[BeauticianNotMagician]

Hi all as the thread title says I just wanted some opions on my situation.

I have been with DP for 15months.I have two children from a previous relationship DS1 aged 7 and DS2 aged 5.Dp loves the ds dearly and would really like a child he is quite keen to start trying after christmas.

In January I'm going to be taking on a beauty room self employed 3 days a week to start.Then in march the lady that owns it is going on maternity leave for 3 months so I will be full time.Then when she is back off maternity we will split the business again with me doing 3 days and covering each other for holidays,sickness etc.Dp has a stable reasonably well paid full time job.

We are very committed and have discussed the future in detail.Dp hasa been told in the past that he has a low sperm count.I was very lucky and fell pregnant within a month with both ds.We count ourselves lucky that I have the ds already and Dp said if it doesn't happen then the ds are more than enough for him.He just doesn't want to regret never having tried.

So what do you all think should we start ttc sooner rather thn later if at all?We are both 31

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I would start TTC sooner rather than later IMO. There will always be reasons not to TTC, but if you both feel ready then i would go for it. You never know what is round the corner or how long it might take to get pregnant. However this is coming from someone who is desperate for DC#1.
Good luck with whatever you decide.

Start now. We started TTC after 3 months together - neither of us has children, he's in his late thirties, I'm in my forties and we knew it was right.

We've been together 2.5 years now and are expecting our first child in 7 weeks :) We've had some problems with pregnancies which I won't go in to here, but I'm so glad we started when we did as to delay things would have meant longer dealing with the issues etc.

I say TTC - I came off the pill after three months (and started to work out all the things you need to know like temping, charting, noticing your cycle, EWCM etc).

Thank you ladies.I think I'm overthinking it.I said to Dp that we should wait a bit as I may get pregnant straight awa but I also know it could take a long time and I don't want a huge age gap.

I'm sure my fertility has changed as well.The pill has always been my main method of contraception and my periods during my 7 day break are very different now(heavier and painful) compared to how they were a few years back.

Pinsent good luck with ttc dc1.Like I said I am very greatful to have two already.I'm sure it will happen for you.

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I think the only one that can answer this is you. You talk about your DP wanting children, but not that you want more. Are the things you've mentioned reasons, or excuses?

If you do both really want (more) children, then I would suggest you start right away. There's never a good time to start, and though you feel you might get (un) lucky and get pregnant straight away, you can't be sure. Unfortunately your previous good fortune in getting pregnant quickly can't cure, or help, with your DP's low sperm count. There are a number of women on the long term ttc groups that have no problems at all - apart from a low sperm count for their partner.

You could also consider getting your DP a private test (or talk to your GP for options) to see if there is still a problem with his sperm count. If there is, he may be prescribed, or want to take, something to help this. Most vitamins will take at least 3 months to have an effect, as this is how long it takes to produce new sperm. This option would appear to put you in the best position to make a decision from, and also around 3 months to feel settled into your new job and see if you are happy.

I agree with everything Stasi said. I'd start his investigations now, perhaps trying vitamins etc. Meanwhile you could come off the pill and use alternative contraception, to allow you to start understanding your cycles again. That said (and it may be an urban myth) people do report a fertility surge straight after coming off it. But the fact you say you are having heavy periods even on the pill could be an issue.

Sony want to scare you though - I'm a long term TTCer with nothing apparently wrong and wish we'd started a long time ago!