Hands up, baby....

[arbee]

Hands up to being a lurker for x number of years but I've finally conceded and realised I need your HELP!

Background: I'm 39 (just...) have one lovely DS (2.5 yo) and have been TTC number 2 since November last year. Got pregnant in July but sadly MC'd at 12 weeks in September.

Started TTC again straight away as time's not on my side, no luck so far.

Seem to have got regular cycles back so that's not too much of an issue. Also doing ovulation tests and thats happening too according to the sticks...

HOWEVER! DH works away in the week so our chances of success are currently limited to weekends which doesn't really help if its not the right time in the cycle - I realise this is the major factor in TTC - having a husband who is actually around to perform! But its worked twice so far and due to economic climate, he can't give up work....

I also seem to have the worst spots ever since MC-ing - my skin is terrible. They are so sore too, do you think this is down to hormones?

Are there any supplements I can take to help sort the spots out and give me a fighting chance of conceiving?! Staying positive at the minute - will head to GP in January as we will have been trying 5 months then after MC.

There is so much knowledge on these boards that rather than trawl through threads again I'd better just ask -be kind!

Thanking you in advance for your help.

Hi arbee,

Check out these lovely people - we had trouble conceiving and after 18 months of serious trying, came across foresight - got straight on the programme and conceived after 4/5 months with dd1 and after 6 months with dd2 (I miscarried between dds and after dd2 whilst not on the programme). I am a firm believer! Best of luck. x

www.foresight-preconception.org.uk/

Thanks WLmum will check it out.

To top it off a good friend has announced tonight that she is pregnant, queue lots of tearfulness.... Am obviously pleased for her but made me feel a bit shit. And am seeing her and family tomorrow, great!

So compensating with and chocolate.

Hi arbee,

I'm sorry to hear of your pregnancy loss. I'm in a kind of similar situation - I'm 38, have an almost 2 y.o. and m/c in August. I had an ERPC as it was an anembryonic pregnancy that my body showed no sign of getting rid of on its own. I had HUMUNGOUS zits for the first month after the ERPC - I think it was all the hormones just settling down.

After the m/c, I wanted to have a normal period just to make sure everything was working again, so we didn't start TTCing straight away. I made sure I ate plenty of fruit and veg, and I took a Vit B complex supplement as well as a fish oil supplement (the EPA/DHA sort, not cod liver oil). I also cut down a lot on the booze (dull....) Oh yes, and I took an iron supplement just in case the m/c had left me a bit short on Fe reserves.

And, luckily for me, I am now 9 weeks up the duff.

As regards DTD, I chucked away my ov sticks and just tried to get it on every 3/4 days. I appreciate that's harder for you with your DH working away - is he away Friday nights, or is he back then? I guess you just have to try to fit in a much shagging as you can! (Not every night he's back though, his little swimmers won't stand it!)

Good luck.

I hear that arbee - when we had been trying for approx 18 months for dd1 and my close friends knew that I was very upset about it, one of them announced in the pub that she was pregnant. I was so upset that she was so inconsiderate that I actually didn't see her for the next 6 months.

Also, since my last mc - baby would have been due end Oct - 2 friends have had babies in the last 6 weeks, and 2 more are expecting arrivals shortly. It's v hard on me, and my friendships as they clearly also feel a bit awkward. I am also making good friends with but it is one of the first things foresight say must go. I would say do call foresight - my initial chat with them was so uplifting and they gave me lots of free advice.

Fish - I had the same after my ERPC, I'm afraid to report that I think it took maybe 4 months for my hormones to settle down - having been making a half hearted effort since, but so far no luck. Congrats on your new pregnancy though - give your belly a lovely little rub. x