Pinkee wants a baby - never mind the flavour [smile]

[pinkee]

Do I just try every second day and hope for the best?

Any tips from those of you who just keep positive during this cycle of trying to conceive would be appreciated?

I am also worried that my periods might be getting a bit lighter. I have had a 28 day cycle and now a 32 day cycle, but usually my periods are on the same date of every month. I am now a bit lost as to when I should try to conceive. Also how long do I try before I go to a GP?

This will be my 3rd month of trying for my second. My age is 40. I have a toddler.

I so wanted my first baby that I did pray (and I don't normally pray) saying "well if I can just have one happy healthy baby then I won't ask for anything else".

Someone said to me today, when I said I am worried that I am too old to have another baby "well surely it would not be a problem if you never do have another as you have gorgeous x and that must be enough for you, how could you ever be unhappy about that." And I really do know how blessed I am to have my gorgeous DH and gorgeous toddler.

I met some friends who are all pregnant for the second time, and younger than me today and I can't help feeling that maybe I have left it too late.

Any excellent tips and links to blogs or information out there would be appreciated. I could get fitter and I could eat less.

The last 2 months I have had a stab at those ovulation sticks and used up loads of pregnancy tests. To give you an idea of how mad I have been I have even used pregnancy tests before my period was due even though they were not early testing kits. I then went out and used those early testing pregnancy kits - got negatives but no, that did not stop me and yes I then still kept testing on the day my period was due - like some kind of possessed person. So I cost myself a small fortune. I kept testing on the day my period was due for the last 2 months and yes I got my period immediately after testing. I never thought I would get this obsessed with it all.

I have a secret stash of different tests for this month but I have hidden them away. The other thing I do is look at lovely nurseries and just want to decorate one. I have this totally utterly mad desire for a baby like some kind of jedi force.

Thank you for listening.

Hi Pinkee. Were you a NOV 08 lady? I can't really help with advice but hope this will bump your thread.
I do know however that at our age the sooner you get to the docs the better. Maybe after another month of trying?

Hi Toolly - no I was not a Nov 08 lady. I have namechanged though because I was a bit concerned I had put too much out about myself previously.

I am going to go all out to try this month. I managed to google all sorts of depressing stats last night. I also looked into donor eggs and all types of stuff last night and am completely overwhelmed by it all. Even the ovulation calendars give different times to try.

I think I will try one more month and then go to the gp. hopeful....

Hi pinkee!

Perfectly normal behaviour, imho :o
But put Google in a box, it won't help your sanity!

You can be referred for tests/further investigations after 6 months ttc as you're over 35. I don't personally think a change from 28 to 32 is massive or cause for concern, but I'm not expert and I know you can be referred for investigations for "irregular" periods earlier than 6 months, so you could go to your GP and ask along those lines if that's what you'd like to do?

Xx

Thank you popcorn I agree I really need to lay off the googling.

I have the worst period pain at the moment.

I just have this overwhelming desire to get and stay pregnant. It really is like the only thing I can think about.

I think I will try and then go to the gp - maybe I should say that I have been trying for 6 months??