scared to visit doctors

[Mersea]

I have been TTC without success for over 6 months now and was told by my doctor that due to my age (39) I was to return to see him if I had not fallen pg in this time. I am so scared to go back, at the moment I am still hanging on to a bit of hope that I may still fall, but if results of test show that I am not able to conceive I would be devastated. I have only one ovary left (the other one was removed due to endometriosis) and am worried that the other one is now no longer working as do not seem to be ovulating at the moment. I know the sooner I go the better as something might be able to be done to help but I really can't face bad news. Has anyone else felt the same?

go back to test asap. take your oh with you - he should be tested also. knowledge is power.
don't be too disheartened by poor stats if indeed something is not right. there are plenty of examples when people had children against all odds... if nothing is wrong, all the more reason to lift this weight of fear off your shoulders

i'm 24 and have been ttc for nearly a year, i don't much fancy going to the docs but it could be something simple, no news isnt always good news. Get yourself to the docs. And in a few months when i still haven't concieved and i'm worried to go to the docs you can tell me the same.

many hugs for you!

Go back to your GP - get the information you need and only then start worrying about what your choices are.

I know it's scary, I've been there myself. However moving decisively at this time in you life could make a real difference to your options and outcomes.

Please go, you know you need to.

I think most people are nervous about getting tested. But it might be something simple like a Clomid prescription would be enough to get you ovulating. Or the problem could lie with your partner.

Bear in mind that some tests can only be done at certain times in the cycle and most drs will want them all done before they prescribe any treatment, so you will have several more months to try naturally even if you see the GP tomorrow. To give you an idea, I went to my GP in early April. He referrred me for Day 3 and 21 blood tests. I had already missed day 3 by the time I could get an appointment and day 21 fell in the middle of the royal wedding long weekend, so I had to get them done the next cycle, in May. Then the results had to come back, then I had another appointment to get the results. Then they wanted a test from my husband (who wasn't even registered with a GP) so he had to register and be tested. Then in June the GP referred me to a gynae. The hospital lost the referral twice but I managed to get an appointment in August. The gynae wanted a rubella test (done in August) and a trans-v ultrasound and HSG. I had these in September - the HSG can only be done on certain cycle days. My hubby also needed to be retested. That was done in October. The first follow up appointment available after August was 7 November, so next week I go back to discuss the results and hopefully look at treatment options.

I first went to the GP in April and it will be November before treatment is even discussed. I could have speeded things up a bit by going private (as I expect we will have to in the end) but I wanted to get as much done on the NHS as I could. And to be honest I am a bit scared of IVF and all that it involves, so I was happy to try naturally for a few more cycles.

Do maximize your chances meanwhile! I can highly recommend a book "taking charge of your fertility", it makes the whole subject very accessible and equips with a lot of info that even the doctors are not very familiar with.