Finding time to TTC?

[gillymin]

Anyone else in the same boat as me? We have a toddler and want to have a second child next year, but actually getting to dtd is proving tricky. My OH is always either too tired, not feeling well, or the LO is not well. This is has been going on for about 3 months, I keep thinking next month will be better, but now I don't really believe that. Any ideas how I can seduce my OH? Working out what days we are most likely to conceive does not seem very sexy....

These sound daft and not very romantic when you have to plan like this but it's worked for us so here goes:

Don't wait until you go to bed as chances are you go when you're tired

Do it before dinner otherwise you'll both feel full, fat and tired!

But don't try and do it when you/OH get in from work if you're starving, nothing distracts me more than being hungry!

Stockings and suspenders!

Pounce on him in a different room to the bedroom!

Good luck!

Snogging. Seriously, kiss as much as you can, then... boom ;)

My and my dp didn't dtd for six months after dd was born, then it was about another eight months before it happened again!

We really got stuck in a rut of just not bothering because we were tired/ unwell/ bed was too comfy etc. We eventually sat down and had a proper chat about how we needed to make the effort and it did the trick.

We are now ttc #2 and neither of us have a problem with dtd at least 3 times a week. Good luck to you.

Thanks for the advice.... we are definitely in a rut hopefully applying some of these measures will haul us out of it.

Does your toddler have a nap in the afternoon still?

I was a single mother so when I eventually got in a relationship again I had to find time to dtd and did find the time because I was with a new lovely fella and all I wanted to do was take his clothes off!

Obviously comfort and familiarity set in and they're nice too but when my little one had afternoon naps we used to take full advantage of it and take a 'nap' ourselves. As my mother used to say, 'the washing up will still be there when you're done'.

And there's nothing cheekier than a naughty afternoon session in bed. Lovely. Good luck!

Also, perhaps try and find a little time for yourself, doing something you like doing or relaxing because then your mind will have more time to think about sexy stuff rather than making constant lists of jobs you have to do in your head. It's much easier to jump on your fella if you've been thinking sexy thoughts all day - oh ok, for at least an hour.