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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Mums who conceived first child aged 35 years plus...

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lovecloud · 20/12/2005 22:27

How long did it take you?

Did you experience any difficulty?

Did you need help such as fertility drugs to conceive?

Did you just "go withe flow" / work out ovulation dates / takes tempertures / ovulation kits etc.?

Was your periods regular?

How long was your cycle before trying?

Sorry for all the questions but my sil started trying for her first last month and even though she prepared herself for it it not happening she was disappointed and i just wanted to be able to give her some info from other mums.

thank you

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merrybelly · 21/12/2005 11:27

my side of the coin, conceived in first week of trying at 36 with ds. fat, unfit, and working like a dog.

GingerBearingGifts · 21/12/2005 12:08

How long did it take you? 3 months

Did you experience any difficulty? no,came off pill and started trying

Did you need help such as fertility drugs to conceive? no

Did you just "go withe flow" / work out ovulation dates / takes tempertures / ovulation kits etc.? worked out ov days

Was your periods regular? yes

How long was your cycle before trying? 29 days

Was shocked it happened within 6 months to be honest.

wewishyouaClaryChristmas · 21/12/2005 12:28

lovecloud not read the whole thread but there are lots of "older" (ahem) mums on MN.
I had ds1 when I was 35 (so conceived at 34 in fact. We were successful within a few months of starting to try. Similarly with dd (I was 36) and ds2 (I was 38). I am well aware we are very lucky but I think having a healthy lifestyle (lots of water, no alcohol or caffeine, exercise and eat sensibly) also helps.
Didn't do anything special eg fertility drugs etc, periods were regular.

wewishyouaClaryChristmas · 21/12/2005 12:32

Ok read the posts now, Aloha is right as usual.
(she is a very clever person)
Gingerbear, impressed with your neat bolded up posting.
(Having been criticised by a colleague for badly-typed emails I have decided to improve this and am extending it to MN as well. You lucky people. I will try very hard not to go back to my cod-like former ways....)

Stargazer · 21/12/2005 12:33

Hi Lovecloud

Fell pregnant with DS at 35 - only took six weeks (wasn't planned). Started trying for DD when 40 - doctor reckoned it could take at least a year - pregnant within 4 months. I realise that I've been very lucky to have conceived so easily.

Do wish your sil the best of luck and tell her that getting stressed out will not help her chances - that she needs to be relaxed as much as possible.
Regards

lapsedrunner · 21/12/2005 12:36

Concieved at 39 having stopped taking the pill 9 months earlier. Just went with the flow, only thing I did was start taking folic acid when I came off the pill.

GingerBearingGifts · 21/12/2005 12:37

Cut 'n' paste Clary, 'tis all in the cut 'n' paste.
Oh, and adding the *'s later.

Hope you have a wonderful Christmas by the way. Are you coming to the Spa in Feb?

muminlondon · 21/12/2005 12:57

On, er, first attempt, aged 37. I worked out ovulation dates (which coincided with bank holiday weekend), and relaxed. Was amazed it worked, actually, because had spent all my life avoiding being pregnant prior to that. Extremely regular 28-day periods may have helped and good history of older mothers/multiple births in family (just had the one though).

gladbag · 21/12/2005 12:57

Hi lovecloud. I was 36 when I conceived my ds (first child)

How long did it take you? 3 months

Did you experience any difficulty? No, but was v surprised it happened that quickly.

Did you need help such as fertility drugs to conceive? No

Did you just "go withe flow" / work out ovulation dates / takes tempertures / ovulation kits etc.? Vaguely worked out ovulation dates, though all guess work (ovulation pains, changes in discharge etc)

Was your periods regular? Yes, (had come off the pill after 12 years about a year earlier)

How long was your cycle before trying? 28 - 30 days

westerngirl · 21/12/2005 13:52

HI Lovecloud,
Conceived baby at 35, first month of trying. Took plenty vitamin supplements and then folic acid before trying. Roughly charted length of cycle. Bought ovulation sticks. Took a week holiday flanking possible conception dates and rested for the whole time. Had a very obliging husband.
Intend trying again early 2006 so will see if it was just a fluke or actually a foolproof method!

Lots of luck to your friend.

EmilyD · 21/12/2005 13:59

First baby was conceived first attempt! currently been trying since may with one mc in july, still with no pregnancy, its frustrating considering speed of first one!!!

wewishyouaClaryChristmas · 21/12/2005 14:00

Gingerbear, sorry, went off line to do some work (!), but thanks, have a great one yourself!
Yes am coming to the spa, must check thread to see if I am supposed to be paying anyone......

minky2 · 21/12/2005 22:24

Took me 6 months to get pg with dd at n3arly 35- having had really regular periods, they went haywire once I decided to go for it! I know of other people who have been very stressed about it and had difficulties conceiving. I don't know if the 2 are linked but I would suggest as far as possible trying not to become too stressed about conceiving as it may make it more difficult.

Agree about only waiting 6 months before seeking help - am 36 now and am going to start trying for no 2 in Jan. Will be down the dr's looking for help if no joy by June and will be lying about how long we've been at it....

BluStocking · 21/12/2005 22:37

Lovecloud - I wish your SIL luck. I agree with everything Aloha said - and I am afraid I didn't exaggerate for dp's sake and said '10 minutes' - and I was 43.

But not everyone has that experience, at any age.

notasheep · 21/12/2005 22:39

Conceived dd at 35(was not planned) and ds at 40,went with the flow,but had fertility checked at 39.

Knew when i had ovulated by checking my underwear,why do people buy kits or am i being plain stupid,or was it easy for me.

I dont even know when ds was conceived,it was much easier than saying this is day 14 so we must go to bed

notasheep · 21/12/2005 22:47

lovecloud-good luck and best wishes to your sil,there are certainly many mums on here well over 35

santagotstuckOOPSthechimney · 21/12/2005 22:53

i had ds1 at 38yrs old, and ds2 at 40yrs old
both were concieved in about 30 minutes each, to carry on the joke
With ds1 i suppose it took 2 months without contraception, with ds2 i had only had 2 periods since ds1, and the third didn't come iyswim. He was a bit of an accident ( but not unwanted, just not planned per se).
So it was no problem at all for me post 35yrs old, sadly fro dh who thought it might take alot of trying

FestiveFrex · 22/12/2005 04:00

I had mine at 37, 38 and 41. Conceived DS1 at first attempt. Had to stop breastfeeding in order to conceive the next two, but, once my cycle had returned, fell pregnant in 2nd month of trying with DS2 and 5th month with DS3.

Arabica · 22/12/2005 17:52

Conceived DS at 2nd attempt aged 39, conceived last Dec at 1st attempt (miscarriage) and then conceived again at 1st attempt, aged 44, with my current pregnancy. Which just goes to show how little age has to do with it!

kleist · 22/12/2005 18:42

I haven't read the other posts and probably not much help but I conceived at 37, unplanned, but gratefully received!

AveyourselfamerryLITTLEFISHmas · 22/12/2005 20:14

Other side of the coin here.

Finally conceived at 36 after 2.5 years trying. Fertility problems for both of us and we were just about to start IVF when I got pregnant naturally. As someone said, being fit and healthy is no real indicator.

We would love another one, but I sort of feel we have used up our miracles.

I hope everything goes well (and quickly) for your SIL.

motherinfurriercoatnoknickers · 22/12/2005 20:30

Another late bloomer here; conceived DD1 at 36 (tested on my 37th birthday) through, well, 'constructive carelessness' - so definitely no 'trying'. Conceived DD2 at 39 after about six months, I suppose, of 'trying' (which in my case involved trying to remember to combine a toddler and a sex life, ahem).

Artoo · 23/12/2005 08:59

It's lovely to see so many Mums of 35 conceiving with little difficulty.

I guess I'm in the other camp - although I'm not 35 yet (I will be in July next year), DH and I have been trying since July this year, and not having any success yet. I starting temping as soon as we started trying, which was really useful as it immediately identified issues with my cycle. This meant that I had good evidence to discuss with the doctor, and has led to them starting fertility investigations earlier than the 6 months you are supposed to try for at my age.

The stats say that 95% of couples will conceive within their first year of trying, so I would say that your SIL should not start panicking yet. Perhaps she might find it useful to use ovulation prediction kits to establish when she is most fertile, but in general providing she is having sex 2-3 times a week she is doing what is needed

If there's nothing happening after 6 months of trying, she should go to see her GP.

Hope this helps!

Hugs,
Artoo.

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lovecloud · 23/12/2005 14:34

Hello

Thank you so much and like Artoo pointed out its fantastic news to hear of all these great stories, statistics have got it very wrong if this is the case!

My sil is probably worrying more than she needs, the press and tv put pressure on her. She was at a wedding this week and there were so many people there she had not seen for years and every person she spoke to said "so - any news yet?", "i thought you would be on your third by now", "you need to get on with it etc..." people can be so rude and hurtful when when small talking. they should think before they speak.

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Adrianoska · 04/02/2020 18:28

I am 36 and have two children (12 and 6). I now have a new marriage and I am desperate for a baby... But I have been trying for 3 months and nothing... Please tell me I will be ok? I eat healthy, don't ever smoke or drink... I took pregnacare conception but it made my cycles long. Now I ordered some ovulation sticks and fertility lube. We have loads of sex and I feel like a failure... Why is it so stressful? X

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